"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Respect Dilemma

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Hey guys, here's the story...

I recently broke up with my gf and then today, at a swimming competition, some girl who's friends with my ex joins me and my boys in the showers and says to me:

"Rooster, why did you tell katie (my ex) that you hated me?"

I was stunned and she totally caught me off balance. All i could muster up was "I didn't... when was this?"

She says "you told her on the phone". So I kept denying it and it died down.

Now, we both know that I did tell my ex that I didn't like her, the thing is I don't know whether to leave it at that because I'm not happy my mates saw me get burned by a girl like that.

Or if I should go over to where her swimming club are sat tomorrow and tell her that yes, "I remember now I did say I don't like you... because I don't" and confront her about it?

Thanks, all help is appreciated guys.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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sav

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dont play into their games... leave it at that....
 

Don Rooster

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I'm not prepared to play their games, and this is why katie's my EX.

It's just that her mate totally burned me in the showers, in front of lots of my mates, and I'm not sure what to do now? Leave it or own her?!!

Bear in mind that there is a 99% chance we will have to walk past each other tomorrow.
 

Obsidian

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don't be such a wuss. It doesn't sound like you got "burned" at all. You should've just said, "Because you're annoying and as hell and you always get on my nerves." Why bother denying it if you don't like her?
 

Don Rooster

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Obsidian said:
don't be such a wuss. It doesn't sound like you got "burned" at all. You should've just said, "Because you're annoying and as hell and you always get on my nerves." Why bother denying it if you don't like her?
That's what I mean... I denied it instead of telling her why I don't like her - you're annoying as hell etc. And now I do feel like a wuss.

I'm just wondering whether to rectify it by telling her tomorrow or just to leave it?

Hmm... what would maximus do??
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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WC2

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I've always found that when you speak your mind, everything else will follow. In this case, you didn't speak your mind, but just avoided the confrontation. How you handle things is your call, but I'm just telling you how I would handle my things.

Anyways, it's already over so theres no point in going back and trying to fix what's already broken. Unless she approaches you again about it, don't worry about it and move on. In any case actually, don't worry about it and move on.
 

LostAndConfused

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Why did she go into the mens shower room anyways? What I PERSONALLY would have done is to drop my pants, let her see my cöck, and if she pursues it from there, slowly walk towards her, defending yourself at the same time :D.

I'm with the others, it seems like this chick is the type to try to ruin you and your ex's relationship (even if you don't see her doing it, she could be talking crap about you to your ex behind your back), and it was pretty low of your ex to tell her that you don't like her.
 

everywomanshero

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Dude worrying about what other guys think is kind of high school stuff. I think you just do whatever you want to do and let other people worry about being impressed or not. In the overall schema of life, whether or not some wankers think you got dissed by a girl is small stuff, IMO.
 
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