You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Or they use it to separate the chumps from high value guy. They want you to pass the test. Yeah it's manipulative but it works from their standpoint. Just don't be reactive and the "hard-to-get" phase won't last long.teacha said:i only see 'playing hard to get' as either of these reasons listed below:
-low interest/no interest on her part.
-she needs an ego boost.
-you are dealing with a manipulative bitch.
etc.
do you really believe that stuff?Voice said:Or they use it to separate the chumps from high value guy. They want you to pass the test. Yeah it's manipulative but it works from their standpoint. Just don't be reactive and the "hard-to-get" phase won't last long.
By being unreactive. Instead of playing her little games, make her jump through your hoops and show her who's boss. If she doesn't want to then be unreactive to that too. It's all about respect. You think the girl wants you to follow her around and play all her games? Hell no. I can't stand it when I see dudes following girls around and being their little *****.teacha said:do you really believe that stuff?
if so, how do you pass this so-called test?
fair enough.Voice said:By being unreactive. Instead of playing her little games, make her jump through your hoops and show her who's boss. If she doesn't want to then be unreactive to that too. It's all about respect. You think the girl wants you to follow her around and play all her games? Hell no. I can't stand it when I see dudes following girls around and being their little *****.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.