She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Or they use it to separate the chumps from high value guy. They want you to pass the test. Yeah it's manipulative but it works from their standpoint. Just don't be reactive and the "hard-to-get" phase won't last long.teacha said:i only see 'playing hard to get' as either of these reasons listed below:
-low interest/no interest on her part.
-she needs an ego boost.
-you are dealing with a manipulative bitch.
etc.
do you really believe that stuff?Voice said:Or they use it to separate the chumps from high value guy. They want you to pass the test. Yeah it's manipulative but it works from their standpoint. Just don't be reactive and the "hard-to-get" phase won't last long.
By being unreactive. Instead of playing her little games, make her jump through your hoops and show her who's boss. If she doesn't want to then be unreactive to that too. It's all about respect. You think the girl wants you to follow her around and play all her games? Hell no. I can't stand it when I see dudes following girls around and being their little *****.teacha said:do you really believe that stuff?
if so, how do you pass this so-called test?
fair enough.Voice said:By being unreactive. Instead of playing her little games, make her jump through your hoops and show her who's boss. If she doesn't want to then be unreactive to that too. It's all about respect. You think the girl wants you to follow her around and play all her games? Hell no. I can't stand it when I see dudes following girls around and being their little *****.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.