"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Request of opinions

Brainman

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Hmm. I'm not even sure if this is a problem, but my roommate seemed to think it was a little weird.

I asked this girl from class if she wanted to go out sometime and she gave me her number. I also mentioned to her that I was having a housewarming party and that she should come by. We sit next to each other in class and had seen, but not met each other from a club that I had been the vice-president of.

When I called her to make plans, I invited her to my friend's birthday party (he rented the VIP section of a club in Santa Monica) she said she already had plans and asked if the next friday was okay. So, we were set to go. Then I remembered that that was the day of my housewarming party.

When I saw her a few days later, I told her this as we were walking to our cars. We changed our plans to the Thursday before the housewarming party.

She seems pretty interested. She quickly came up with an alternative date to get together, when she said she already had plans. After we talked on the phone, she kinda giggled and said, "thanks for calling." In class, when the teacher says stupid ****, she turns and smiles at me, to see if I'm smiling too, even though we just started talking last week.

The reason I am writing is because we would be going out Thursday night and then she would also be coming to the party on Friday night. I get a bit of a vibe that this might not be the best move right after a first date, but I don't think it's anything like a deal breaker. I'd just like some opinions.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Lesterchester

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go for it

Sounds like she really likes you. I think hanging out 2 days in a row is pretty cool. Good luck and just enjoy your time with her.


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You ain't go no problems here. Don't be all clingy with her the second night and you should be home free.

How's Santa Monica? I have a buddy out there and been thinking of flying out and checking it out...never been to LA.....
 
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