"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So your question is: 'How does being an eternal bachelor help or hurt your chances with girls?'

Well let me preface this by saying: who cares, you do what you want to do. I think you know this already but I just want to make sure.

From my experience, being an eternal bachelor increases your chances with girls IF they know other high quality girls (attractive girls) have liked you but you decided to pass on them.

You are basically demonstrating social-proof to the max.

What's really interesting is, average looking girls get rather intimidated when they find out beautiful girls were unable to win you over, and they often just give up.

Of course, the beautiful girls just view this as a challenge - so they will try to pull out all the stops to win you.

Also what gets you MAJOR respect is when girls find out that you passed on a girl even though she was beautiful, because her personality just does not fit you. It means you are 'highly selective.'
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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