Repressing your DJ skills where needed?

[narcissist]

What up guys.

I have a quick question to ask y'all.

Do you guys find it truly hard to repress your DJ skill when you need to?

I find it very hard.

Because I am making it first nature in my life, when I am around people I shouldn't be DJ around, I am.

example: [yesterday easter]

I went to my cousins yesterday to celebrate easter, and my cousins are aged 17,18, and 20.

My 20 year old cousin has a girlfriend of two years. She is 19, and pretty sexy. But she is my cousins gf so there is NO WAY I would do anything with her, or think twice about it, as my cousin is part of my family and obviously family over b1tches.

Automatically she was attracted to me just by how confident I am and how different I am from them because I am a city dweller whereas they are more north rural dwellers. Me = Confident, them = shy

Well throughout the day she was staring at me and asking me questions about my sex life and how many girls I have been with, which I was sort of being mysterious about and not giving her the answer (my DJ coming out) which only made her more into me. Also I was by second nature NEGGING her, which I realized is just something that is inherently coded into me now.

At one point I was joking around, and said I actually went and got a c0ck piercing, and instantaneously she said "can i see?!" and im just like haha "youd have to come downstairs for that girl" shes just like "yeah okay lets go"

She was also keno'ing me hard. touching my leg and arm, and when we were eating dinner her leg never stopped touching mine...

Obviously I used this to my benefit because I told her next time I come up to bring a bunch of her cute friends over for me to pick from, and she was all over it, showing me pictures and sh1t, but once again REALLY close to me almost cuddling me.




Anyways theres more to it but thats the jyst.

Also my mum's friends tend to do the same, and its fvcked.


I think it would be better if my families gf's arent attracted to me.

But I find it hard to suppress these traits seeing as I go on a few dates a week and tend to use negging and keno and embody all of the traits that are revered on this site, And over the past 6 months it really has become second nature. Thus when I am in these scenarios it is hard to turn it off.


What do you guys think?

Do you find it very hard to suppress your DJ skills when you have to?

I don't really want to have a dichotomy between AFC and DJ. But I also don't want my family to hate me.

 

[devilkingx2]

stealth brag thread

tbh I'd make the same stealth brag thread if I was in your shoes.

EDIT: also, your cousin's GF is a total slut if this is a true story, you may want to warn him if he's the type that will listen(if not.... just bang her friends and wait for the relationship to run its course).

 

[VladPatton]

Be careful what you pass-up. If she's hot for ya, tag that ass.

 

[narcissist]

Be careful what you pass-up. If she's hot for ya, tag that ass.

Even if its my close cousins girlfriend?

Like she is pretty damn sexy, but naaaaaaaaah I cant.

I have a good feeling that she is going to dump him, but still. He's family and I could never break that bond.

I am pretty amoral in most other situations, but for some reason this is one that I feel I have a moralistic duty towards.

 

[narcissist]

stealth brag thread

tbh I'd make the same stealth brag thread if I was in your shoes.

EDIT: also, your cousin's GF is a total slut if this is a true story, you may want to warn him if he's the type that will listen(if not.... just bang her friends and wait for the relationship to run its course).

Haha I just realized it probably came off as that ey?

sh1t.

Well I was actually just curious as to whether you guys ever turn off your DJ skills, or If its even possible.

OR

If you guys just let it become who you are, and never turn it off.

 

[IBreatheSpears]

I'm still learning but I don't switch it off. Here's a text my own mother sent me:

Can you invent an app [I'm a programmer] equivalent to a grunt by text as then you can reply as you want to, my darling xxxx

to which I replied "Mhm".

Practice makes perfect, after all.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

That's the thing: "DJ Skills" aren't things you turn on and off. It's really more about the fact that you become less attached to various situations and/or outcomes. Like, for me, I got to a point where other people's opinions of me don't matter, I'm always going to do what I want to do when I want to do it. That particular trait, however, is something that women find VERY attractive. So, it's not something that can be "turned off" - like, if I'm in a convo with a buddy's gf and start telling her about how I traveled here and there by myself, or have a cool story about sneaking into a concert for free, those stories are ones that indicate to other women the kind of guy I am, which they may, in turn, happen to find attractive.

Bottom line is, once you've naturally ingrained certain techniques into your character, you can't really worry about what another person's response to that is going to be. You can only control what YOUR response is. So, in this case, if your cousin's gf is responding positively to how you are, that's on HER - the part YOU control is deciding whether or not to take advantage of the situation. And, as many of us on the boards here have learned, not every opportunity open to you should be taken - but again, YOU have to make those decisions.

 

[narcissist]

That's the thing: "DJ Skills" aren't things you turn on and off. It's really more about the fact that you become less attached to various situations and/or outcomes. Like, for me, I got to a point where other people's opinions of me don't matter, I'm always going to do what I want to do when I want to do it. That particular trait, however, is something that women find VERY attractive. So, it's not something that can be "turned off" - like, if I'm in a convo with a buddy's gf and start telling her about how I traveled here and there by myself, or have a cool story about sneaking into a concert for free, those stories are ones that indicate to other women the kind of guy I am, which they may, in turn, happen to find attractive.

Bottom line is, once you've naturally ingrained certain techniques into your character, you can't really worry about what another person's response to that is going to be. You can only control what YOUR response is. So, in this case, if your cousin's gf is responding positively to how you are, that's on HER - the part YOU control is deciding whether or not to take advantage of the situation. And, as many of us on the boards here have learned, not every opportunity open to you should be taken - but again, YOU have to make those decisions.

Yes. Very good answer. Thank you.

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to Harry Wilmington again.

 

[RagingBalls]

Cousin's Backwash LOL

Be careful what you pass-up. If she's hot for ya, tag that ass.

I wouldn't always jump at an opportunity like this. she's the gf of a close cousin. I wouldn't cross that line. I'll pass this one up.

 

[teddy]

lol agree with others that it's a stealth brag thread.

But that's not a bad thing, narcissist.

Don't turn them off. Keep using them. Just when she gives you the opportunity, don't pounce on it if you have qualms. But don't try to turn off your DJ skills.

At least for me, it helps me practice and ingrain it more into my DNA. So I try practicing on anyone, from my sister to an old lady.

 

[TheGambino]

Haha she was down to **** for sure. I find it hard also same situation but those girls are the daughters of my stephfather. They came over for dinner i was shooting neggs making em laugh building rapport. But theses not much you can do then that she gave me the eye contact like i want you but I had to repress my whole selfs for not
Isolating her and making a move. Those situation r annoying but its best to tease and if she really wants you sshe will create a situation where you both are private for a number close or anything. But I feel ya bro

 

[Turuwal]

I think it's really hard to turn off the emotional detachment once you have achieved it. There can be some tweaking to calibrate between "outcome independence" (good) and "not caring" (bad) of course.

My solution?

Game everyone, but escalate only on the targets.