"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Reprecussions of Forcing Exclusitivity

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Now go bang a slut at the club and take a sharpee marker and write your name on her ass and text a pic of that to her saying thank you with a smiley face.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Only if she's a slut, right?

It great how some people can know a person without really knowing them. /verbal irony
I suppose you are right. She could be at home patiently waiting for him to confess his love and bare his soul for her.
 

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I suppose you are right. She could be at home patiently waiting for him to confess his love and bare his soul for her.
I would also conclude that this is, highly unlikely, the case. He already bore his soul with all the exclusive relationship talk.
 

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We talked for 5 hours last night, the last couple I did not remember. She told me I was too controlling which my previous LTR said as well. I've been friend zoned and I'm happy with that because she was able to break down the walls and make me feel emotions after years of indifference to women and relationships. She made me a better person and gave proof that truly good women exist in the world.

I'll have to date 50 more women to probably find the same compatibility that I felt with her. I'll move on and chock this up to experience. There us so much potential for me, she will be a distant memory, but she made me realize to never stop being yourself. As the great squirrels said -

You got me...now what you gonna do with it?
 

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Now go bang a slut at the club and take a sharpee marker and write your name on her ass and text a pic of that to her saying thank you with a smiley face.
That's what I am going to do, look out for a PM from me ;)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I know that there is a low chance of any more progress with her in regards of a relationship - probably 10%. It was no longer worth the effort, so I just used her as an emotional tampon. I needed it really bad, even though I'm going to lose her as a romantic prospect. There are other fish in the sea, and this one I'd not worth losing your mind over.
 

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My text this morning:

'Thank you for talking to me last night. You are an amazing friend, this quota kept me emotionally stressed for weeks and I apologize to put that in you. I truly appreciate your willingness to help. Have a safe drive and enjoy your time with xxx and Noiseless xxxx

I understand that I lost you as a potential partner because we moved too fast and too soon. Over the past few years I was emotionally indifferent to everyone I met and got close with. You brought out the emotions in me that I haven't has since I first fell in love 10 years ago. I'm happy that you were able to make me feel emotions again, and I appreciate that'

You can save my number as whatever you want, I don't care. Although I have to tell you that when you showed me your phone last time and asked me to lookat the text message your friend from Sacramento sent to you (whether he said he's coming on March 26th or 28th), I noticed you do save your friends' phon
e numbers. Stop lying to me that you don't save people's numbers.

His number was saved from college 2007 - xxxxxxz4 I remember his number from heart. He is also my in case of emergency contact
I only save numbers of people I trust

Xxxx, you know what your biggest problem is? Your biggest problem is your need to be right, ALL THE TIME! You need to be right in order to stroke your ego, to approve yourself to others, and to compensate for your insecurity and lack of confidence. Because of this, you constantly come up with excuses and lies and do whatever it takes to prove yourself, even if you knew you were wrong. This is a huge turn off and people will quickly get tired of you and leave you as soon as they get to know you. You told me that you don't want your life to be like your parents', but if you don't realize and not willing to change your ego-centric self, you will be doomed to repeat the past.

My response
That'd why I only see us as friends
 
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My text this morning:

'Thank you for talking to me last night. You are an amazing friend, this quota kept me emotionally stressed for weeks and I apologize to put that in you. I truly appreciate your willingness to help. Have a safe drive and enjoy your time with xxx and Noiseless xxxx

I understand that I lost you as a potential partner because we moved too fast and too soon. Over the past few years I was emotionally indifferent to everyone I met and got close with. You brought out the emotions in me that I haven't has since I first fell in love 10 years ago. I'm happy that you were able to make me feel emotions again, and I appreciate that'

You can save my number as whatever you want, I don't care. Although I have to tell you that when you showed me your phone last time and asked me to lookat the text message your friend from Sacramento sent to you (whether he said he's coming on March 26th or 28th), I noticed you do save your friends' phon
e numbers. Stop lying to me that you don't save people's numbers.

His number was saved from college 2007 - xxxxxxz4 I remember his number from heart. He is also my in case of emergency contact
I only save numbers of people I trust

Xxxx, you know what your biggest problem is? Your biggest problem is your need to be right, ALL THE TIME! You need to be right in order to stroke your ego, to approve yourself to others, and to compensate for your insecurity and lack of confidence. Because of this, you constantly come up with excuses and lies and do whatever it takes to prove yourself, even if you knew you were wrong. This is a huge turn off and people will quickly get tired of you and leave you as soon as they get to know you. You told me that you don't want your life to be like your parents', but if you don't realize and not willing to change your ego-centric self, you will be doomed to repeat the past.

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That'd why I only see us as friends
You texted this mess?

LOL
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You texted this mess?

LOL
I invested emotionally in her too soon, I am scared of commitment, even though I told her I wanted one drunkenly. I'm basically using her to let out all the emotions I have bottled inside that comes from an actual relationship and move on. The text that she just sent me below kills me inside

And I want to thank you too. You also made me realize that I'm capable to love and able to cook for a guy again, since 2009.

I think this post reflects my personality, I wanted to squeeze everything from her emotionally and move on to my other plates. I could care less if I ever see her again, but I still want her in the volunteering group. Maybe this is just a reaction to getting FZed. But at the same time, maybe this was what I wanted all along. The fear of a relationship ending still haunts me? That I try to avoid that? My purpose in life is to ruin every girl and destroy their trust in men, simply because I have been wronged in the past???
 

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I invested emotionally in her too soon, I am scared of commitment, even though I told her I wanted one drunkenly. I'm basically using her to let out all the emotions I have bottled inside that comes from an actual relationship and move on. The text that she just sent me below kills me inside

And I want to thank you too. You also made me realize that I'm capable to love and able to cook for a guy again, since 2009.

I think this post reflects my personality, I wanted to squeeze everything from her emotionally and move on to my other plates. I could care less if I ever see her again, but I still want her in the volunteering group. Maybe this is just a reaction to getting FZed. But at the same time, maybe this was what I wanted all along. The fear of a relationship ending still haunts me? That I try to avoid that? My purpose in life is to ruin every girl and destroy their trust in men, simply because I have been wronged in the past???
You are way more than a little self-indulgent.

"Ruin every girl"? Really? She dumped you.
 

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My text this morning:

'Thank you for talking to me last night. You are an amazing friend, this quota kept me emotionally stressed for weeks and I apologize to put that in you. I truly appreciate your willingness to help. Have a safe drive and enjoy your time with xxx and Noiseless xxxx

I understand that I lost you as a potential partner because we moved too fast and too soon. Over the past few years I was emotionally indifferent to everyone I met and got close with. You brought out the emotions in me that I haven't has since I first fell in love 10 years ago. I'm happy that you were able to make me feel emotions again, and I appreciate that'

You can save my number as whatever you want, I don't care. Although I have to tell you that when you showed me your phone last time and asked me to lookat the text message your friend from Sacramento sent to you (whether he said he's coming on March 26th or 28th), I noticed you do save your friends' phon
e numbers. Stop lying to me that you don't save people's numbers.

His number was saved from college 2007 - xxxxxxz4 I remember his number from heart. He is also my in case of emergency contact
I only save numbers of people I trust

Xxxx, you know what your biggest problem is? Your biggest problem is your need to be right, ALL THE TIME! You need to be right in order to stroke your ego, to approve yourself to others, and to compensate for your insecurity and lack of confidence. Because of this, you constantly come up with excuses and lies and do whatever it takes to prove yourself, even if you knew you were wrong. This is a huge turn off and people will quickly get tired of you and leave you as soon as they get to know you. You told me that you don't want your life to be like your parents', but if you don't realize and not willing to change your ego-centric self, you will be doomed to repeat the past.

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That'd why I only see us as friends
When you break up with a girl just move on. No need for emotional dysentery like this. Keep your thoughts to your self and go nc. Why are you trying to fix her? This is face palm material.
 

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Take your focus off all women for a while. Focus on improving yourself. You have some emotional and commitment issues that need to be addressed. Get some help to resolve and heal those. When you have, your life and your experience with women, will improve as a result.
How does one start to address the emotional and commitment issues? I've always ignored them, and never learned.
 

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When you break up with a girl just move on. No need for emotional dysentery like this. Keep your thoughts to your self and go nc. Why are you trying to fix her? This is face palm material.
I'm going no contact, but I don't think I am learning from this experience.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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My text this morning:


Xxxx, you know what your biggest problem is? Your biggest problem is your need to be right, ALL THE TIME! You need to be right in order to stroke your ego, to approve yourself to others, and to compensate for your insecurity and lack of confidence. Because of this, you constantly come up with excuses and lies and do whatever it takes to prove yourself, even if you knew you were wrong. This is a huge turn off and people will quickly get tired of you and leave you as soon as they get to know you. You told me that you don't want your life to be like your parents', but if you don't realize and not willing to change your ego-centric self, you will be doomed to repeat the past.
This is what attracted her in the first place. I'm not going to change that, I want what I want. Just because she wants me to change that, doesn't mean I will be willing to, just for her and her experiences. I'd rather find someone to accept who I am, my decisions and love me for my decisions. It might turn her off, but I'm not going to change myself for the sake of a relationship. She is who she is, I am who I am. We weren't compatible.
 

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After days of No Contact, she initiated a text and I gave her a brief response. She called me yesterday that I never returned. Today we had a volunteering event that I didn't sign up for. She shows up an hour after I did, not knowing I'd be there. I was being my old self, confident and funny while thinking nothing of her.

Sensing that she took the bait, I texted her that I missed her call yesterday. She said she wanted to talk, but it's okay.

I called her.

The conversation was that she felt that I compromised her 'boundaries' by seeing other women. Then she apologized for that (which I wanted all along.) I never mentioned exclusivity. I just told her that if we were exclusive, I wouldn't see other women and left it at that. We bantered and then I told her I had to go.
 

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You are in denial. If you truly desire to improve yourself, your relationships, and your life, you'll need to become honest with yourself. Denial won't get you there.
Sometimes, you need to accomplish the goal you have set out to do, regardless of anything. Even if the objectives have changed.
 

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After 5 days of being ghost on my end, I asked her to dinner Sunday. She asked if she should head to my place or meet up at the venue.

As she is approaching 30, I think her biological time clock is telling her to 'make-up' as she might have perceived me as a viable partner. We met up and she was at my place later that night. She asked if I still wanted her as a GF, to which I agreed.

Anyways, now that I have relational sh!t out of the way, I can focus much more on my career and defining my purpose in life. Thanks for the support guys!
 

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I've seen a lot of posts on threads saying the rules are a waste of time i.e DJ Bible. I think people are missing the point the Bible is DJ 101 and if guys followed at least that they wouldn't be messing their lives up. It's like when you are learning to box you drill the jab the cross the uppercut etc. Then you learn them in combination. Then you learn them when moving. And progress through sparring to real fights.

But here s the key point guys.

When a pro boxer loses a couple of fights the trainer checks to see they don't have technical Weaknesses. So The Fighter goes back to training the jab the uppercut...

Everyone has moments of weakness and makes rookie mistakes the rules aren't a map they're just a compass. And if you happen to be in the 5% of badass Naturals good for u but don't fail to understand the value of training wheels for the other guys.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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