"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Report AND Plz Advice To Interpret Her Behavior

sage_juan

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There is this girl that I met through a matrimony site post divorce. She immediately connected and we met quite a number of times. Even though during conversations with her which took in places ranging from coffee shop to garden walks I made it clear to her early on that I wasn't looking for marriage and all, she reciprocated my views and we continued to meet on and off. Then the following things happened :-

1] I was looking at her as just friends, as I was recovering from divorce blues I didn't feel like going for it... we kept meeting during this period.

2] Off late and this is very recent you can say about 2-3 weeks, whenever we met there used to be a lot of sexual content in her conversations and not romantic one but sexual where she would share dirty talks she used to have with her girl friends and the pranks they played etc. Here she would show her friends to be dirty and she to be resilient one.... not totally but somewhat.

3] Although I didn't show or express my surprise this did surprise me, another thing during this period was her coming on dates and following up before date like 'Are We Meeting Today As Planned' kind of thing.

4] Then the bummer, I told her on the last date we should go for a small outing, we had actually discussed this and she was quite into it. So then she was supposed to tell me the day of the weekend when were to meet.

5] She didn't message so I just messaged her and asked her about her plans and she very casually replied 'Oh! Every Thing Got Cancelled, I Am In Some Other City Due To Work'.

6] As I had started reading sosuave by this time, I did not react, I just messaged her 'IC' and asked her about her health as she taken a fall lately.

7] Next day morning the day we were supposed she messages me good morning and I reply back, and she is surprised m up early and I just praise the beauty of the sun and she says a meek 'Ya'.

8] Since then no communication since 5-6 days and that has happened before too.

Conclusion
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I think she was looking for a supplicating/disappointment/show desperation response from me on no 6] & 7] and maybe continuing the same in no 8] to my credit and due to the all the helpful articles I read out here. I did not loose my terms specially when it was clear there something fishy here cause she would always follow up on even small meeting and thing one was a big one she would have informed in case there was some kinda thing going in her mind.

Please Advice
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Now I am sure all you experienced DJs would be able to through some light on this and I would appreciate 2 kinds of advices the most.
1] What does her behavior mean or indicate?
2] Should I Still Pursue her in anyway if she communicates back or if we meet again?

FYI we are both in 30s and Divorced and she is a single mom.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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sage_juan

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Ya Sam, I started visiting this site only recently and wasn't reading the signs properly until now, was getting confused in the mixed signals she was sending. However what should be my approach if she again wants to meet up, we live in small town and we have had this pattern of not talking or messaging for a fortnight and still meeting and picking up where we left.

Meanwhile I have started to diversify my interests and trying to keep in mind the bible.
 

Big Nuts

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She is divorced and a single mom (very low hanging fruit)...i.e. she has at least inhaled c0ck and been banged. Divorcees don't need to wait, they want to be banged to fulfill their empty life. She wanted to get naked but you showed no real sexual interest by taking her by the hand (control) and massacring her vagina! You were BETA and she was repulsed...classic case.
 

Scaramouche

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Dear Sage,
Yes if a Bird starts talking Svexy she is ready for it.....Possibly the venue,time of day just wasn't right for anything to happen...If you set something up close to home,take her out then ask her back for coffee you will get lucky....Don't be too eager and start spinning plates now!
 

sage_juan

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Thnx Scaramouche, This takes time and patience right, everyday is not Sunday. Well I'll just have to wait for the right circumstance. I have had stuff going for me in the past, but always with lots of BS, Now I have started with what not to do, with time I will also grasp what to do and when. Its a never ending process I guess. The point is in my country the situation is a bit more messy as far as these things are concerned so have to be a little extra circumspect.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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sage_juan

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Thanx for the insight Big Nuts, Will try to detect signals early and act on em.
 
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