Report: 8 weeks since breakup

[kingwilliam]

Well I haven't been on here in a while, so I figured Id report back on how I have handled a breakup.

Short version: we were together for 2 years, lived together for over half that, she was young, it got sorta boring, she moved out.


Anyway, for the first couple of weeks I was torn up inside about it, but hid it very well. I drank a little more than I should, but that was just because I started going out with my old crew I used to run with when I was single. I went out and got laid the day after the breakup, felt really weird and guilty the next morning. The ex was on my mind a LOT.....which pissed me off, cause all I really wanted was to NOT think about her... I called her, I txted her, I acted like fvckin pvssy

Week 2-ish, I started not to think about as much....... religiously implemented the "no contact" method. (which is THE way to move on)

Week 3 ish, she starts txting me (this proves no contact theory) Of course, being the idiot I am, I respond to her texts. We meet up. We have lunch. This was a ****ing stupid move as it reset my no contact timeline.

Week 4 hardcore no contact, deleted her FB, did not repsond to texts from her......

Week 5 - Starting to get my face back out there in the city..... getting numbers left and right..... 3 or 4 new girls "on call" for when I want to get laid

week 6, 7 - more of the same. I haven't talked to her, dont think about her (much, hehe)...but absolutely no contact. She friend requested me on FB, which I have ignored...

Week 8 - sigh...... I met a girl. she is the first woman i have met since the breakup that I actually like. Beautiful, independent, and REALLY funny - which I like, cause I am a bit of a comedian myself...basically we met on St Pattys day....got her number... the following saturday i met up with her, hung out all night, then went back to her condo with a big group of people... I stayed there with her but didnt get to hit it because a bunch of people passed there and its an open studio style apt... we have been in a ****ing non stop txt msg conversation since then.. anyway, we really hit it off but Im worried that Im letting myself slip into a "rebound" situation, which Im not interested in.

We are supposed to have dinner tomorrow night....she sends me messages "I wish you were here snuggling w me"........ "Cant wait to see you"

This is all nice to hear, but now Im getting the urge to send her messages like that too, cause Im really into her....... but Im holding all that **** back cause I keep telling myself its too soon and my emotions are ****ing with me..


What would you guys do? Im thinking maybe I should just take her out, have some drinks, and then take her back to her condo and dome that **** out....... go home, business as usual.

But I think I like her... sigh



Women: cant live withem, cant suck your own ****




Sorry for the long post, but I kinda wanted to put my thoughts "on paper" so to speak

 

[Reyaj]

Good for you man.... there is nothing wrong with liking a girl just do your best to keep your emotions in check at all times thats all.

My gf is starting to really get on my nerves and I'm contemplating break up myself...... I think I may post about it...

 

[Romjuan]

Well I haven't been on here in a while, so I figured Id report back on how I have handled a breakup.

Short version: we were together for 2 years, lived together for over half that, she was young, it got sorta boring, she moved out.


Anyway, for the first couple of weeks I was torn up inside about it, but hid it very well. I drank a little more than I should, but that was just because I started going out with my old crew I used to run with when I was single. I went out and got laid the day after the breakup, felt really weird and guilty the next morning. The ex was on my mind a LOT.....which pissed me off, cause all I really wanted was to NOT think about her... I called her, I txted her, I acted like fvckin pvssy

Week 2-ish, I started not to think about as much....... religiously implemented the "no contact" method. (which is THE way to move on)

Week 3 ish, she starts txting me (this proves no contact theory) Of course, being the idiot I am, I respond to her texts. We meet up. We have lunch. This was a ****ing stupid move as it reset my no contact timeline.

Week 4 hardcore no contact, deleted her FB, did not repsond to texts from her......

Week 5 - Starting to get my face back out there in the city..... getting numbers left and right..... 3 or 4 new girls "on call" for when I want to get laid

week 6, 7 - more of the same. I haven't talked to her, dont think about her (much, hehe)...but absolutely no contact. She friend requested me on FB, which I have ignored...

Week 8 - sigh...... I met a girl. she is the first woman i have met since the breakup that I actually like. Beautiful, independent, and REALLY funny - which I like, cause I am a bit of a comedian myself...basically we met on St Pattys day....got her number... the following saturday i met up with her, hung out all night, then went back to her condo with a big group of people... I stayed there with her but didnt get to hit it because a bunch of people passed there and its an open studio style apt... we have been in a ****ing non stop txt msg conversation since then.. anyway, we really hit it off but Im worried that Im letting myself slip into a "rebound" situation, which Im not interested in.

We are supposed to have dinner tomorrow night....she sends me messages "I wish you were here snuggling w me"........ "Cant wait to see you"

This is all nice to hear, but now Im getting the urge to send her messages like that too, cause Im really into her....... but Im holding all that **** back cause I keep telling myself its too soon and my emotions are ****ing with me..


What would you guys do? Im thinking maybe I should just take her out, have some drinks, and then take her back to her condo and dome that **** out....... go home, business as usual.

But I think I like her... sigh



Women: cant live withem, cant suck your own ****




Sorry for the long post, but I kinda wanted to put my thoughts "on paper" so to speak

kingwilliam,
im really glad that i read your post because my story is almost the EXACT same as yours. lived together, broke up, thought about her alot. ive actually hooked up with 9 girls since we broke up in mid jan, and now kinda seeing someone but still very early. my first date with this girl i took her to the shooting range to shoot guns. its a really good first date technique that ive always done because it does alot. girl gets adrenaline from shooting a real gun, shows your bad boy side, and alot to talk about after. anyway, i still think about my ex all the time. i wish that part was similar to yours where i wasnt thinking about her. i still see her here and there which makes it hard and makes me want her back. and my mistake is i still text her here and there i guess to keep my foot in the door. i know bad move, but its hard to fight your feelings. keep posting brother, and ill see if i can give any input or advice for what your going through.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear King Billy,
Take her back and after the second meeting you will realise why you left her in the first place.