Reply or keep ignoring?

[dementia]

I was dating a girl for 2-3 weeks who I want to keep banging. She had a strike of conscious last week I guess and confessed to me after 3-4 dates that she has a bf and doesn't want to hurt her man anymore. Her respect for him is low obviously but I guess just felt bad cos he did something nice to her that day. She says he forgave her cheating instantly, and also knows we still text eachother. She even told him he could bang someone if he wanted to make it even lol crazy! Sounds like she's totally messed this dude up. They have a trip planned to his country in a month so I'm wondering if she's with him just for that. Flights already booked, budgets set etc. She says she respects n loves him but I dont believe that at all for obvious reasons. During time spent with her birthday with her, she cooked for me, we banged so got herinvested somewhat. she said her bf isn't exciting anymore n their sex life sucks, and I made her feel the sexual excitement she was missing. Anyway so after she confesses I make the mistake of texting her a lot about the situation which she replied to but then started trying to frame the situation like I was uber hurt and she's the prize. but she's still texting and replying all the time. Shes also is down to meet again for a movie but she was almost trying to friend zone me or something or reframe our sexual past. So I figure eff this and cut contact on Thurs or fri night, went out Saturday, met some girls, one of which was hot and threw some pics of me n her on fb. Playing the ignore + jealousy card, which worked, as I woke up Sunday afternoon and she had deleted my fb (to avoid looking at me with others I guess. She said she's gets jealous easy). Day 3 of ignoring. Today she has woken up and messaged "morning greeting from ur best "friend"" and something else which I can't see til I open the message . The message currently won't be showing as "read"

I read a post on this forum about ignoring abd to keep contact cut for 5 days or until she calls, and only calls. But it's from 2010. I dunno if she's really gonna call me. Should I reply to her message? Or let it hang unread or read? shes probably looking for that attention back but Im wondering if ignoring and replying but not engaging her via text aren't the same thing. Ie: both actions imply I have options yet one I'm not snubbing her. Anyone have an ignoring and scoring story I can mayb try draw from. I know her IL is still hanging around salvageable levels. Just wanna be careful I'm not just gonna feed the ego too early.

 

[Moroder]

Sounds like you're going out of your way in hopes of a lay with a messed up person. Is it really worth your time?

 

[Meisterman]

Couple possibilities here.


Possibility #1 (**Most likely**)

She's an attention wh*re. She doesn't plan on fvcking you again but enjoys the validation you give her from texting her. In other words she wants to put you in her sphere of beta orbiters who worship her till the end of time. The more you contact her, the more your self esteem will be damaged. You should cut the chord for good and stop talking to her. Anything less will give you more pain than joy in your life.

Possibility #2

Let's start with the fact she's already cheated on her boyfriend with you, then apologized. This in itself sells herself out as a low value woman. If she does that to her own boyfriend, what makes you think she won't do it to you if you were together? (Or even if you aren't, she will still pull some sleezy sh*t that will have your head spinning)

And after all that apologizing to her bf, if she does start fvcking you again, that cements her place in the dirt of the lowest quality woman who's also clearly an attention wh*re. That dude has serious esteem issues that he hasn't dumped her yet let alone the fact that she's still in contact with you. (But who knows if she really told him that she cheated on him. She could have just lied and told you she said that to him when she didn't.) Either way she's clearly an attention wh*re who can't be trusted. Everything she does, including texting you, fvcking you, it's about HER, not you. Never forget that. She will hurt you in a heartbeat if it furthers her own cause. In which case, it's best to get rid of her immediately. Just like scenario 1, her sticking around will only cause you more pain than joy.

I say you stay NC and stop responding to her. Time to turn over a new leaf.

 

[nismo-4]

Poisonous bytch.

Hang around if you want to become burned or a beta orbiter. Pull the plug for your own sake.

 

[dementia]

Yea. I'm not so hurt by what happened. She's just good in the sack, like, very good. My plan is to ignore and only respond to something like "I miss u, come over tonight" or something that leads to ****in. She doesn't seem to have a lot of orbiters. Not much of a fb user and doesn't go out a lot, but def needs validation, you're right. The message I guess I wanna put across is "this is were u get ****, not were u get to ego boost" . Just seeing if anyone has any similar stories... I was considering replying to her message , which is now "read", with "I'm not ur friend" or something .. She actually asked how my Sunday was, since last Sunday it was me n her in bed all day. .. Keep ignoring? Or any kinda remark I could make?

 

[Meisterman]

Yea. I'm not so hurt by what happened. She's just good in the sack, like, very good. My plan is to ignore and only respond to something like "I miss u, come over tonight" or something that leads to ****in. She doesn't seem to have a lot of orbiters. Not much of a fb user and doesn't go out a lot, but def needs validation, you're right. The message I guess I wanna put across is "this is were u get ****, not were u get to ego boost" . Just seeing if anyone has any similar stories...



I was considering replying to her message , which is now "read", with "I'm not ur friend" or something ..

Lol...don't do this..

She actually asked how my Sunday was, since last Sunday it was me n her in bed all day. .. Keep ignoring? Or any kinda remark I could make?

Yes, keep ignoring.

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