"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

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So I been wrestling with this question because girls say it to me often, especially now that its summer and I take my shirt off. I'm 6 foot and 150lbs. Obviously too skinny for my frame and I'm working on eating more and lifting weights to improve. In the meantime, what the hell do I say when girls say "you're so skinny" or "Rick (my name) is too skinny"? You can't say a neg back to the girl cause then it looks like it got to you. I've always been stuck when I hear this and just remain silent which I think is pretty bad. Anyone got some suggestions?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Check out the Health and Fitness forum for good tips on how to bulk up. This is a problem that can be done away with.

In the meantime, just hear "You're too skinny" as them saying "Hey, you're not fat". Obviously they're checking you out, right? So how bad can it be?
 

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Hullothere said:
So I been wrestling with this question because girls say it to me often, especially now that its summer and I take my shirt off. I'm 6 foot and 150lbs. Obviously too skinny for my frame and I'm working on eating more and lifting weights to improve. In the meantime, what the hell do I say when girls say "you're so skinny" or "Rick (my name) is too skinny"? You can't say a neg back to the girl cause then it looks like it got to you. I've always been stuck when I hear this and just remain silent which I think is pretty bad. Anyone got some suggestions?
Actually you are like me, but i workout and look pretty ripped... and have a lot of stares in the beach. You are thin, but your IMC is perfectly fine. And we live in a obese society wich makes you look even thinner.

Say something, yeah go find a muscular slave to handle your shopping bags... anything along those lines
 

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I'm 5'11" 160 lbs. Been that way all my life and I like myself that way. I have always been slim, and have lived with these types of comments ever since I can remember. The one thing I have noticed is this. The people who make these comments are mostly unattractive, overweight, have a black hair growing out of a mole on their nose, etc. It seems that in some sick way, they are making themselves feel better by devaluing the appearance of others. I had a woman at work not long ago just look at me and say "you look like you just walked out of a concentration camp!!! WTF! I just gave her some stink eye, and said "how bout we just got over to the human resources manager, sit down in her office and have a chat about how my appearance relates to a prisoner in a concentration camp". She immediately said she was sorry, and has kept her mouth shut ever since. My standard comeback to snide comments from these idiots is "so what"? These are the type of people who don't think before they open the hole under their noses.
 

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Im 5"11 and 165pounds... never thought I was big but not at all skinny either.

You guys are almost the exact same build...you must wear your weight differently.

Its very hard to add weight for some people though, just gotta try different foods and different stratagies.

Atleast your not fat
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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5string said:
I'm 5'11" 160 lbs. Been that way all my life and I like myself that way. I have always been slim, and have lived with these types of comments ever since I can remember. The one thing I have noticed is this. The people who make these comments are mostly unattractive, overweight, have a black hair growing out of a mole on their nose, etc. It seems that in some sick way, they are making themselves feel better by devaluing the appearance of others. I had a woman at work not long ago just look at me and say "you look like you just walked out of a concentration camp!!! WTF! I just gave her some stink eye, and said "how bout we just got over to the human resources manager, sit down in her office and have a chat about how my appearance relates to a prisoner in a concentration camp". She immediately said she was sorry, and has kept her mouth shut ever since. My standard comeback to snide comments from these idiots is "so what"? These are the type of people who don't think before they open the hole under thier noses.
right but i don't take it personally, I mean if I was fat these same girls I'm sure wouldn't be saying "hes too fat" or "you're too fat". It seems to me in our society that it is an acceptable semi funny observation to make about men. So i don't want to say something back that would be offensive because I don't think they neccesarily mean it in that way. I was thinking the optimal answer is something really ****y and humorous. Just having trouble thinking of it!

But yah as far as appearance goes, being too skinny is kind of a bad thing. A man is supposed to be strong and a protector. I'm in the camp that looks is only 15-20% max of a man's sexual market value, so I don't use it as a crutch. But as someone trying to improve all facets of life, I see this as something I can improve on.
 

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Sir Psycho Sexy said:
Im 5"11 and 165pounds... never thought I was big but not at all skinny either.

You guys are almost the exact same build...you must wear your weight differently.

Its very hard to add weight for some people though, just gotta try different foods and different stratagies.

Atleast your not fat

dude 15lbs is noticeably much bigger then you think
 

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I guess I don't really take it all that personally. More like I'm tired of it. Get's old. Even at my age, I'm still a good lookin guy. There are tons of women out there who are attracted to slim dj's.
 

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5string said:
I'm 5'11" 160 lbs. Been that way all my life and I like myself that way. I have always been slim, and have lived with these types of comments ever since I can remember. The one thing I have noticed is this. The people who make these comments are mostly unattractive, overweight, have a black hair growing out of a mole on their nose, etc. It seems that in some sick way, they are making themselves feel better by devaluing the appearance of others. I had a woman at work not long ago just look at me and say "you look like you just walked out of a concentration camp!!! WTF! I just gave her some stink eye, and said "how bout we just got over to the human resources manager, sit down in her office and have a chat about how my appearance relates to a prisoner in a concentration camp". She immediately said she was sorry, and has kept her mouth shut ever since. My standard comeback to snide comments from these idiots is "so what"? These are the type of people who don't think before they open the hole under their noses.


5string, if you dont mind me saying I think you may have taken that a little too much to heart. She may have just been trying to joke or have fun with you. Like I said, calling people too skinny is not really considered an insult in our society (even though i agree it lowers your value to prospective women). What about a response back like "why dont you cook some food for me to eat then"? *shrug*
 

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YES BUT I CAN EAT VIRTUALLY ANYTHING ALL DY AND NEVER GAIN AN OUNCE.........its the perfect body, admit it you are so jealous of my metabolism
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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i used to be 6' 4" 195lbs.... been bulking since january and am now 6' 4" 225lbs... i must say it feels really good to be bigger... most people get out of my path when i'm walking now lol.
 

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Hullothere said:
5string, if you dont mind me saying I think you may have taken that a little too much to heart. She may have just been trying to joke or have fun with you. Like I said, calling people too skinny is not really considered an insult in our society (even though i agree it lowers your value to prospective women). What about a response back like "why dont you cook some food for me to eat then"? *shrug*
No problem brother. The point was that instead of just saying I was skinny or slim, she chose to compare me with a POW from a concentration camp. Now you have to admit, that was pretty stupid. Activate brain before talking=good thing
 

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I'm 6'1 and 170 lbs now, but I weighted as little as 155 at times, mainly due to cutting weight for muay thai and grappling competitions. Keep hitting up the gym and eat a lot of protein shakes, it feels good to bulk up!

As for the response, if you want to keep it short and ambigous you can go with "good thing I wasn't trying to hit on you" in a playful tone. If she's a real bytch and comes back with a response along the lines of "why? because I'm out of your league?" just go with it and say "no, because you're too fat." If the girl was hot to begin with, she'll just laugh and you have an in. If she was actually fat, she'll hate you forever but it will also shut her up.

I also like the metabolism response, just a little too long.
 

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Been thinkin about this. Her...."yer skinny", you...."so buy me some beers and a pizza". Maybe she will. Then you can escalate and mount her.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hullothere said:
So I been wrestling with this question because girls say it to me often, especially now that its summer and I take my shirt off. I'm 6 foot and 150lbs. Obviously too skinny for my frame and I'm working on eating more and lifting weights to improve. In the meantime, what the hell do I say when girls say "you're so skinny" or "Rick (my name) is too skinny"? You can't say a neg back to the girl cause then it looks like it got to you. I've always been stuck when I hear this and just remain silent which I think is pretty bad. Anyone got some suggestions?
I'd say: "So you aren't fond of skinny? Would you prefer a 'chubby'? ;)
 

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say "thank you, i used to be 300lbs" then come up with a story of how you lost the weight

dont take sh!t like this seriouslyy and i wouldn't recommend saying back "you're too fat" or sh!t like that. it'll make you seem insecure
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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