Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Replacing Deadlifts?

Kwello

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They really hurt me badly. I'm not sure why, but they just really take a toll on my body. I find I can really only do 2-3 sets of 10 reps with only like 160lbs before I can't bare the thought of doing one more.

Most exercises I enjoy a lot. In fact I almost enjoy every single one other than deadlifts. My form is fine, I watch myself in a mirror from front and side angles to make sure of that... there's just something about the motion that I don't enjoy.

Is there any exercise or set of exercises that I can get away with in lieu of the deadlifts? I know that compound lifts are always best, but as I said, just the thought of a set of deads hurts.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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mrRuckus

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Well um you dont need to do more than 2-3 sets of 10.

Does your gym have the special girls only room?
 

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How about doing 2 x 5 or 3 x 3 for a while. Deadlifts are the most gruelling exercise you can do and take a toll on your recovery/CNS more than any other lift including squats.

But if you don't like doing deadlifts there's alternatives, though not as good.

Incidentally if deadlifts are hurting you I'd check your form. Post up a video or describe how you do them..
 

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What sort of pain is it? It could be more of an endurance thing that appears as pain. EFFORT has me doing 20rep rack deadlifts, and after about 15, I'm wishing the set was over, and after 20, I'm wishing I didn't have to do another fvcking set (2x20, lol).

So try doing lower reps like Alex said. Obviously you'll be going heavier but the set is quicker and you're pulling for a shorter time.

Alex, I'd be interested to hear what alternatives there are to deadlifts just for the sake of it?

-shaun
 

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Only alternative I can think of off the top of my head are Hypers..
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Warboss Alex

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well, nothing will ever replace the effectiveness of a floor deadlift but you also have: stiff leg deadlifts, sumo deadlifts, rack deadlifts from various heights, trapbar deadlifts, hammer strength deadlifts (do deadlifts on the hammer shrug machine) and also good mornings and row variations.

If you don't do a deadlift variation then you should combine a heavy good morning with a row/chin and also add direct trap work. it won't work 100% the same but close enough

But unless you have certain injuries, not doing ANY deadlift variation is holding your progress back bigtime.
 

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i agree, drop to 2x5 and see how that feels for a few sessions.

also, be sure to distinguish between pain and soreness. the latter is fine, though avoidable at least to some extent (see current thread). anything resembling acute pain is a different story.
 

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Form?
 

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Kwello said:
They really hurt me badly. I'm not sure why, but they just really take a toll on my body. I find I can really only do 2-3 sets of 10 reps with only like 160lbs before I can't bare the thought of doing one more.

Most exercises I enjoy a lot. In fact I almost enjoy every single one other than deadlifts. My form is fine, I watch myself in a mirror from front and side angles to make sure of that... there's just something about the motion that I don't enjoy.

Is there any exercise or set of exercises that I can get away with in lieu of the deadlifts? I know that compound lifts are always best, but as I said, just the thought of a set of deads hurts.
Cleans, clean and jerk. And rowing machine + squats or T-Bar row with squats.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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