Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I experienced the same thing a couple years ago.speakeasy said:After injuring my back early this year, I still can't safely do deadlifts without a bunch of back pain the next few days.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Smith machine squats? You daft or something? How is that going to help his back, or even his form for that matter. Smith machine squats does for your form what excrement does for dessert, it fvcks it up.blinkwatt101 said:Straight leg deadlifts and squats on the smith machine.....your sole focus should be form and you will be fine. One of buddies who fractured a vertebrae is slowly working his back in and he's having no problem doing those.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
which portion of deads hurts your back? the initial pulling off the floor or from about knee height or above? take it slow, and be sure to stretch and strengthen the muscles slowly. i would lay off deads for a while if they hurt. hyper extensions and strengthening your core in the meantime will do wonders for your back. there are plenty of other things you can do to work your back. there is also rack pulls, which are partial deads. here's a vid...speakeasy said:What's a good substitute for these? After injuring my back early this year, I still can't safely do deadlifts without a bunch of back pain the next few days. Is there anything else that's just as good?