You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I experienced the same thing a couple years ago.speakeasy said:After injuring my back early this year, I still can't safely do deadlifts without a bunch of back pain the next few days.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Smith machine squats? You daft or something? How is that going to help his back, or even his form for that matter. Smith machine squats does for your form what excrement does for dessert, it fvcks it up.blinkwatt101 said:Straight leg deadlifts and squats on the smith machine.....your sole focus should be form and you will be fine. One of buddies who fractured a vertebrae is slowly working his back in and he's having no problem doing those.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
which portion of deads hurts your back? the initial pulling off the floor or from about knee height or above? take it slow, and be sure to stretch and strengthen the muscles slowly. i would lay off deads for a while if they hurt. hyper extensions and strengthening your core in the meantime will do wonders for your back. there are plenty of other things you can do to work your back. there is also rack pulls, which are partial deads. here's a vid...speakeasy said:What's a good substitute for these? After injuring my back early this year, I still can't safely do deadlifts without a bunch of back pain the next few days. Is there anything else that's just as good?