"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Replace fear with curiosity

lakeshore

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Just a little tidbit.

Instead of being afraid of something: OMG, what if she doesn't like me. I can't talk to her.

Be curious: Hmm, I wonder if she likes me. Lets find out.


Just a little nugget I picked up, thought it made sense. Try to flip fear into curiosity.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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and you can do it with whatever really, not just girls.

fear: I can't wear that, people are going to look at me like I'm an idiot.

curios: I wonder what kind of reaction i get if i wear that.
 

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Definitely helpful, but it might be better to imagine yourself as the superior. Say to yourself, "She's cute, but I wonder if she's actually worth talking to. Let's find out..." You shouldn't be bothered about whether or not she'll like you. That's what cripples most guys. Wondering whether or not she'll like you creates that fear of rejection. Flip it over, make yourself the prize.
 

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I thought I'd interject this little tidbit myself.

Did you know that anxiety (fear) and anticipation (excitement) are biologically the same? The release the same chemicals... the only difference is we percieve one as negative and one as positive. Change your perception, change your life ;-)
 
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