Repetive Problem with girlfriend

[Axcell]

Hey guys, one question I had regarding a problem I've been having with the past 2 girlfriends I've had.

I'll make a long answer really short. I've had 2 girlfriends in the past, both of which are a year younger than me. (I am 17, they are 16.) Every time I go into a relationship, I have problems meeting up with the girl. She brings up how her parents don't let her go out, etc.

Anybody know how to deal with this situation?
Would be great! I just got with this new girl about 3 weeks ago, as a note. I just want to make sure I am not making the same mistake over and over again - as this seems to happen in every relationship I get into.

I've been trying to make her come after me by avoiding having plans. I just need an idea of what to tell her.

Thanks for your time,
Nick.

 

[Supremo]

You're seventeen?

You shouldn't be wasting time with younger chicks by now.
Since I hit seventeen my only game has been 18+

Not only can they drive themselves places, but they're not terribly restricted by their parents and they're usually living alone or at college anyway.

Doesn't get better than that

Amen brotha.

Truthfully, if you HAVE to go for girls who's parents are dumb like that, you're gonna have to get it in well with the 'rents.

It'd be nice to know HOW they wont let them come out. Do they just say straight up she can't go out? Or she can't go out with YOU?

It seems weird that a 16 year old girl isn't allowed to hang out with people.

Let us know, be glad to help.

Outtie

 

[Axcell]

Haha, actually, I had a chance with an older girl; but I like to know that I worked hard to get somebody.. and she was a challenge. So that's not really an option for me anymore, I like this girl quite a bit, and she's got a big thing for me as well.
And unfortunately, it's very difficult to become "friends" with her rents - it's not that she is not allowed to go out with me, she isn't allowed to go out with guys in general. Her parents are just really over protective - and it seems every girlfriend I have had, has parents like that.

See, the thing is that my last girlfriend... once she broke up with me, she got a new boyfriend about 2 weeks later. (NOTE: They are still together.) And they go out once every 2 weeks! When I hardly saw her once a month, there has to be something I am doing wrong.

 

[Man Man]

Once every two weeks is still really weak.

 

[Supremo]

Once every two weeks is still really weak.

True dat.

Honestly it's not that hard to get it in with her parents. When you meet them (or next time you see them) seriously SUCK UP to them. A lot of girls I've been with tease me about it but when done correctly, it gets the parents saying, "Why don't you have _____(sniper001, maybe?) over for dinner" or "He's such a nice boy."

If they're over-protective, you need to show them that YOU can protect her. Be a gentleman. If her parents have groceries, help take them in. Say her dad used to play football, chat it up!

Most people absolutely DREAD the idea of talking to a girls parents, but one way or another you're going to have to.

One quick example:
This one girl I was with a while ago's dad was a firefighter. This was a perfect conversation starter for him and I because I do junior volunteer firefighting. After that he and I watched a 24 marathon on TV for 3 hours while the girl I was with got jealous of how much attention her dad was giving me!

It's not impossible to smooze the parents. Slowly but surely, you can do it.

Outtie

 

[Axcell]

Alright, thanks for the advice guys. However, I was thinking that if I gave her less attention and tried less to make us go out, she would start making us go out. You guys must be wondering how I came up with this. Well, if anything I have learned over the past few years it is that the more you chase after a girl, the less she wants you and the more distant you become of a girl, the more she wants you.

If I started making plans with other friends, and stopped asking her to make time with me, she would start to be the "aggressor." Anybody can offer any other great advice?

 

[Supremo]

I was thinking that if I gave her less attention and tried less to make us go out, she would start making us go out. You guys must be wondering how I came up with this. Well, if anything I have learned over the past few years it is that the more you chase after a girl, the less she wants you and the more distant you become of a girl, the more she wants you.

I thought you said it was her parents who wouldn't let her out?!

What you're saying is true, but it wont work if she can't get out due to over-protective parents.

 

[Axcell]

See the problem is that she TELLS me she can't go out because of her over-protective parents; but a part of me still feels that she isn't trying hard enough probably because I have shown interest too much.
She had a boyfriend 3 months ago, they went out quite a bit from what I remember... And he didn't even have a somewhat relationship with her rents - her rents did not even know they were good friends.

 

[mpimpin]

That parent thing is 95% of the time an excuse. If a girl wants you she'll find a way to make it happen.