Repeating the same mistakes...why!?

[spiegel549]

Hey guys,

Haven't been on in several months. Been working my ass off and traveling.

To make a long story short I need you guys to get me back to how I was. I need to get that alpha male tough skin back like I had it. I have been out of the dating game for 7 months and now that I am meeting new girls I am completely letting my game go to crap.

I recently met this 18 year old girl. I am 27. I get puzzy blind and lose my game its crazy. Like she picks me up last night, we get high, hang out in the woods over looking the LA skyline, and she is all over me. I go to kiss her and we start kissing for 3 seconds and she stops and says "Noo I shouldn't be kissing you I don't want to give you the wrong idea" 5 mins later we Kiss again, she stops, we kiss again she stops. Then today she hits me up to go the beach and I mean she is laying on me, hanging on me FLIRTING etc. we went for dinner, I picked up the tab and she said next time we go out I am gonna pay for you! I was like alright cool! At the end of the night she wouldn't let me kiss her..wtf? I don't get it??

SO here I am 27 years old, in shape, good looking, making good money and I am spending my tuesday night thinking how to figure out an 18 year old freshly out of HS...LOL its fcuking nuts.

SOMEONE PLEASE set me straight. Yell at me. Tell me whats up! Am I wasting my time with this girl? Keep pushing forward?

Cool. thanks.

 

[HalfPUAHalfAFC]

First, spin more plates. Really, you need options.

Which leads to point two: she can tell you don't have options and feels in control of the situation. Plus, she's getting the attention she wants and you keep giving it to her even though you are not getting what you want. The longer this dynamic stays in place, the lower your value sinks in her eyes.

Third, if you want this girl to start giving it up, be less available, mysterious, have other women in your life, let her figure out that you are willing to walk (don't say that directly, but get it across to her nonetheless). She'll either come around or go all meltdown about "men only want sex" blah blah blah.

She has attraction but not enough to go the full mile. Read up on "dread game."

All that said, she's 18 years old. Fickle, fickle, fickle. Plus, she no doubt is getting attention from all sorts of guys. She probably has a pack of orbiters.

And that's likely what you'll become if you don't keep up the sexual tension around her while also getting across to her that you and her hanging out will be on your terms and that includes sex.

Basically, your in her frame, not your's and that does not produce gina tingles.

 

[Viral]

What happens if things go to crap with this girl? Will you die? Will you never be able to see another women in your life?

Or will you learn your lesson and continue on?

18 year old girls usually all over the place. Her indecisiveness is probably just her.


About losing your alpha male tough guy skin:

Well maybe ask this,
Why don't you have tough skin right now?

It sounds like it's because you care too much about this one 18 year old girl. It's too much of a one shot... your taking an overly cautious approach because you don't want to screw up, you cant stand the idea of what it implies about your skills with women if you mess up... Truth is there's nothing that will happen.

You can totally **** up with this girl and then see another girl. You can. Understand that.


Let it go. Dump her and immediately after see 3 women at once. She's sucking you in too much, she's messing up your point of view.

There's no gigantic hurdle dude. See more women, and you'll get the belief that you don't need this one.

 

[spiegel549]

AWESOME. thank you both. Was refreshing and well needed. THANKS.

 

[Demonpenz]

It's easier to chump it up than to set boundries. Being a man day in and day out with everyone is hard, but tomorrow is a new day. Keep Pimping.