Repairing an LTR

[omgwtfm8]

I've been with her for 6 months and we've both noticed a decline in feelings between each other due to the stress and drama we've been through the past month.

It's been a rough month for our relationship. The summer approached and we've broken up due to it. We still hung out and acted like a couple for the first month of the summer. Hanging out un-officially for a little period caused a lot of problems. We were just playing games with each other and not acting our real selves. She hooked up with another guy, I hooked up with another girl, eventually told her I needed space after that all happend.

I gave her space. I decided I still wanted to be with her, she cried for me back as well and we made up. We become official BF/GF again last week. Now we've been seeing each other like we used to again and things are starting to get better. I need advice repairing a relationship after breakups. Can they ever return to where we started? Can a relationship really start over? Any tips and advice.

Me and my girlfriend had a long talk tonight about feelings and how we both want this to work out really bad and there's no reason to throw away what we've built up over the past 6 months but I need advice on making this work for the best.

I don't think it's time to call it off and move on. Me and her still have potential for something amazing.

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

This reads like a YM or is the SEVENTEEN magazine 'say anything' column, and yes I use to read my siters girlie zines.

What really happened that made you guys 'break' things off?

 

[trajhenkhet02]

Dating is kind of like regular poker where you don't know everyones cards. LTR's are kind of like Texas hold em where you know most of the cards, and marriage you know the whole hand. The higher up the relationship is when things go sour , the less chance things will ever be the same.

 

[omgwtfm8]

We both didnt know what we wanted as the summer approached. We tried to break up and get over it. But she ended up calling me all the time still and eventually I told her. We should just hang out again and see what's going on. We made up.

Then another time recently is when we weren't official. I heard she hooked up with someone, meanwhile i did too. We both didn't tell each other and then she acted shady at a party and i flipped out on her broke everything off and said a bunch of things i shouldn't have said to her. Next day later she called me up begging for me and how she doesn't want to be with anyone else but me. I told her I don't know what to do anymore with my feelings for her. I asked her for space.

I still was talking to the girl i hooked up with during my space. The new girl eventually was too busy for me and I hung out with my girl and made up again. Now we're back together and i'm trying to make the best of it.

 

[flexion_]

Let me first say that I don't think you have the makings of a LTR as trust is gone it appears. It seems you are just taking the comfortable way out.

Anyway, don't make her the focus of your life is essentially the key. The less you care about her (not meaning be rude or dishonest) in the whole scheme of your life the better it will work out.

Think of her as the cruise control for your car - yes its nice but without it you'll be able to get by just fine.