Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Reminder: NC = NC on Easter too

muscleman

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Public Service Announcement:

If you're going NC, today is no exception. I know some of you may be tempted to contact an ex or some girl it didn't work out with, or one who's just not interested.

Don't.

And don't respond to texts/calls from girls you shouldn't be talking to either.

'Happy Easter' (Merry Christmas, happy Vday, happy birthday, happy Halloween, happy Thanksgiving, etc etc) is innocuous enough, but it has the potential to lead you down a path you've been before, or shouldn't venture to in the first place.

I know some guys use the holidays to go fishing with a net, but really you're just wasting your time. A lot of girls will respond as a formality, but they don't really care to talk to you. If she won't talk to you on a normal day, this is no different. If anything, not communicating on this day will do you more good. If you're on her mind at all, she'll wonder why she hasn't heard anything, and if you're not, you can't force yourself in anyway.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I was almost considering this too. Nice work on reminding me. Gotta keep that AFC from showing up.
 

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Great point. Last month I was thinking of crashing the church she was going to but I went to the new church I've started to going to. My folks say I'm way more positive and free approaching and introducing myself to other girls in the church I'm going to now than I was even when I was in a relationship last year.

Instead of looking at the past with my ex, I'm looking at how better the present is being single compared to how the past was while in relationship where I was a nervous wreck, strained, and didn't really talk to any girls apart from my ex and was always getting stressed if she is too light-hearted with another guy, etc.... It drains my energy level even thinking of going back.

In a sense, once I made a decision to dump my ex-girlfriend, and the way I dumped her, I nuked the bridge and entrance to the cave. There is no turning back now. It was a blighted relationship anyway.
 

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Two years ago on Easter my then oneitis ex broke NC to wish me a happy Easter but I never replied. I never did see her again, and now she's married with a child. Looking back I honestly don't know what I ever saw in her, and wouldn't see her now if she begged me. But at the time she consumed my every thought.

It took a long time though. 9 more months. By then I had had another relationship and had sex with 2 other girls. One day I realized I was thinking about another girl instead (the third one after her), the one I'm still dating to this day.

Time heals all wounds, but the only cure for a woman is another (and better) woman. Happy Easter dj's.
 

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On another note, I see that the girls are blowing up my inbox on my online dating site tonight. I wonder what it is about Easter that gets them all bothered about being single.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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