"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Remembering Faces

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freefalling

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I can't remember faces.

I met a girl last weekend who I was attracted to and I am almost sure that she will be back at the same bar this weekend too. The problem is I can't for the life of me remember what she looks like. All I remember is that she had dirty blond hair and an eyebrow ring.

Are there any tricks to remembering peoples' faces? Does anyone know them? I thought it was because I never make eye contact, but even with eye contact I am still blanking out the faces.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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According to a CIA manuel of sorts they say connect the name with something about their the make up of their name. Such as, Armstrong, visualize the person with strong arms. Then connect the mental picture with the hint to remeber the name.
 
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Like, wow... Really, wow...

Never thought somebody would be able to stump me...

I don't even have an opinion on this. I learned how to do this when I was a little baby. I learned this before I knew what learning was!

This is just scary. I want to know how babies learn though.

Um, advice?

Pretend that you know every girl that you talk to until you see her again.
 
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