Remembering conversation content when dating multiple women

[VictorK]

Hello,

I've been focused since the start of the new year to date as many women as I can while I'm playing the field. Right now I'm averaging 2-3 dates a week with different women. My challenge has been with the 8-9 women I'm dating I have a hard time remembering everything we've talked about and get conversations mixed up and find myself asking repeated questions to women whom I thought we didn't talk about a certain topic but it turns out we did.

Is there any advice any of you can share that helped you keep things straight while juggling multiple women each with their own ideas and interests? Women want to be the centre of attention and right now it may come across as I'm not paying attention so id like to fix this.

Thanks all

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Victor,
Know the problem,sometimes just getting the names right is a big enough worry....If you do blurt out the wrong one,always have a quick believable response ready....To keep lots of Plates spinning is an artform....I find the subterfuges that enable multiple relationships resembles acting,you really need to invent a role and keep to it consistently...It needs to be carefully thought out and provide you with the constant excuses that they need...I think it was Rollo did something on this where he argued that as long as you give them Plausible deniability they are happy to be strung along...I have found that to be true,but unless they themselves are spinning plates then see every relationship as having a use by date!

 

[SecondHalf]

Call them all by a common pet name.

Take notes after each date - real high level stuff.
Before a new date, phone call (although you should avoid phone calls) review your notes.

There are some people who have an uncanny memory. I was not one. Once I started doing my homework a little, it was much much better.

SH

 

[abe0]

That is why I can only date 3 at once or else I find myself telling a story I had already told to the same woman or forgetting what stories went with which gal. Abe

 

[MOTU]

Haha I have this problem too.. But sometimes it can work to your advantage... I made a mistake and plate #1 said "that must be on of your other girls" and I just smiled and went on, now she is working harder than ever for attention lol.

What I am trying to do is talk about me less and keep convo about them or about what is going on around us right then, unless they ask me questions. That way I am only repeating if they ask me the same question more than once. Plate #2 told me once I am "interesting and a little elusive". Of course I didn't respond to that either!!

 

[Jitterbug]

Is it actually a problem? Are you losing women because of it?

Don't fix it if it ain't broken.

Women want to be the centre of attention and right now it may come across as I'm not paying attention so id like to fix this.

Yeah they want that, but as soon as they become the center of YOUR attention, you're toasted, so to speak.

I have exceptionally good memory. Never has it been an advantage on dates, only neutral or way worse (into the creepy zone). I have to fake forgetting stuff or mixing her up with some other girl (in a charming way), and they often like that much better.