Remember your purpose

[mv.89]

We are all here learning and have different purposes but recently after a long dry spell (2 years) I cam across this website , which helped me brush on my old skills which I learned, similar albeit forgotten. Reading here and absorbing knowledge I've learned few things which I'd like to share


- Learn and observe so you can become a better man not to get laid just to be a better MAN everything else would just be magnetized to you (job, relations, people, you name it)

- Do not dismiss people (girls) based on looks alone. I just cannot emphasize this enough. I've had girls hot but dumb and wouldn't simulate the "damn! i had fun with this girl" rather I'd get "oh the sex was good" and vice versa with girls average looking. SERIOUSLY never ever dismiss them based on LOOKS ALONE unless until you only want to fvck em and get rid of em. Most would say why not have a fvckable wife , trust me you can ask people already married that they would rather have an average looking wife who is an all arounder rather than a hot piece of meat who attracts looks from neighbors and jealousy from female neighbors.

-Be NEUTRAL in your outlook on people and you'd be able to observe them as whole , if you have judged them in your head before even meeting them, you would never be able to fully take in what they are saying or pay attention to details cuz either you are already positive about them or negative. So be NEUTRAL, TRUST ME IT WORKS WONDERS.

NEUTRAL OUTLOOKS also helps in attracting people since they do not consider you as a threat rather someone they don't know about and human curiosity does the rest.

Hope this helps , if something else comes to mind I'll post it.

 

[MikeAndIke]

Solid. Great post. The part about being neutral is great. Makes sense, although difficult to put to practice sometimes. You can't help but judge sometimes.

 

[mv.89]

Solid. Great post. The part about being neutral is great. Makes sense, although difficult to put to practice sometimes. You can't help but judge sometimes.

Thanks and yes you are right.

It is extremely hard not to judge. First thing we all do is that. Every time we meet a stranger or see a stranger we try to make an assumption based on our past experience right away so our defenses can come in place or to let our guard down. Making a judgment helps us get back in our comfort zone and the mind goes in auto pilot mode there and then we start losing the full control of the situation because now everything the other person will be saying or doing will be filtered through our preconceived judgment.

You must have noticed that sometimes some people just see through our bul**** regardless of what we do. Very rarely that happens but once in a while, you will come across someone like that. The great thing about them is that in back of their head they know what is true and what is made up but they won't confront you. Now if they would've made a judgment on you right away they could've never differentiated between our bs and the true self.

Easiest first step would be , if meeting someone new

Just listen , learn and observe. THAT'S IT. NEUTRAL OUTLOOK will eventually become part of our comfort zone and you will notice how easily you will attract the good in people.

 

[DragonBlood]

If your neutral how are you suppose to neg and have a laugh? Sounds like a forgettable person to me.

 

[mv.89]

If your neutral how are you suppose to neg and have a laugh? Sounds like a forgettable person to me.

Neg is a negative mark. If you are NEUTRAL you will be able to observe and pick on her both negatives and positives which then you'd be able to use them in your advantage.

If you have one track mind it'll blow in your face. For example if you neg her and don't have anything positive to say she'd be like "he is just a bully" and if you praise her all day long "friend zoned you"

NEUTRAL will keep you in balance , plus game will become over all better cuz she'd never be able to understand how you are able to look past her bul**** she'd always be on her toes with you.

 

[goundra]

sorry, while I agree that great looks are not a must, I certainly aint interested if she's a fatty or a dog, regardless of all the other great things that may be true of her. there are plenty of fine looking women that all want a good man. i'm a good man, therefore I can get plenty of them. And I only need ONE.(at a time, that is. )

 

[mv.89]

It's not about settling for what you do not like but rather retaining your judgment.

I'm saying just cuz someone is fat doesn't mean that she will not be fun to hang out with and just cuz someone is super hot she will also be fun.

Ofcourse always go after what you want/need but restrain from passing judgment before truly knowing someone. It'll help you know the real person.

 

[BrownBear]

Try to follow these rules will make you stuck in a vicious circle :nono:

 

[twentee]

go where almost none of the women are fat, and where they don't smoke or use dope. bring back a traditional Asian, whom you've lived with at least a month, and with whom you've had letters, emails, chats, phone calls, etc, for many more months, both before and after your visit. For me, the deciding factor is how she takes karate instruction. If she won't put out the needed effort, wont do as instructed, that kills it for me. I usually know if she'll be ok as a lover in the first week, sometimes in the first 2 days.