Remember and Never Forget

[Adma]

You can be perfect for a girl and she can still dump you, because she doesn't realize that she's in the presence of an amazing guy and she won't be able to get any better.

Chicks = Trouble

Don't be cold and emotionless, because relationships with girls can be an amazing thing to have... But always be willing to walk away. We've been told this from the get go and the reason is, to truly understand beauty in a woman, to truly understand attraction and to truly meet that amazing girl is to be willing to walk away and lose it all at any moment.

It's like gambling, people who live in scarcity will take lesser risks and put on lower bets but the abundant man will always put everything on the table and risk it all... because he can always get a better girl... The reality is, it's never been about girls, it's been about your mindset to a successful life to live on a legacy that you will one day pass onto your son.

The harshest truth is... You can meet the most amazing girl and have her think you are amazing... you can satisfy her in such a way it's like walking on XTC with you... but it doesn't matter, because girls have this mechanism inside them... even though everything is perfect, they can drop you in an instant... And most men have crumbled from this cold mechanism a girl seems to possess but it doesn't ****ing matter... It has nothing to do with you... It is her issue and the only thing that you can do is be prepared to walk away at any moment... never settle for her bull**** and open your eyes to the ****ing truth.

Because the ****ing truth is that out there are millions of girls that like you for who you are as you naturally are right now... who will have amazing moments with you... who will realize what a ****ing amazing guy you are.... But this mechanism, it will feel harsh to you... she'll turn cold but deep down she wants to see your reaction... she wants you to feel lost without her... but your a ****ing man and because you have mentally prepared for this... you have already walked away and moved onto the next girl.

It's the hardest thing to do... when you are emotionally compelled to a beautiful girl who you have a amazing connection with... everything is perfect... you get on great and you're just expressing who you are and sharing that with her... and then that dreaded phone call comes where she says “I feel like we should break up... I just want to do stuff in life... It's not you... It's me... We should just be friends.”

Yes this happened to me today... It's happened to me before and it's ****ing harsh because even though everything was great and take it from someone who has been in this awhile when he means great... But there's one little tiny thing that triggers off that mechanism... and it's like BOOM she is as cold as the blackest ice and her feelings for you one minute... professing her love to you... addicted to your body... and the next, you are nothing to her.

But one day that moment too will come where you both part ways... maybe for unknown reasons, maybe for reasons that one of you screwed up in... but it doesn't ****ing matter, because girls come and go... They are part of your story... part of the adventure that you create and multiple women are a part of that, regardless if you like serious relationships.

It's time to ****ing stand up. It's time to recollect your manhood... just as I am about too... It's time to finally realize the true abundance to life and the game of risk.

So my advice from experience of relationships and the pain that I've been through is this:

1.Be willing to walk away at any moment

2.Stick to your standards

3.Take on the “I don't give a ****” attitude but realize that relationships can be great and to feel something for a girl is something you should strive for... but balance that out with not giving a **** if she wants out or does something stupid

4.State your boundaries

5.As Pook always stated... Always have a back up girl ALWAYS

6.Realize you can have those amazing connections and long term relationships with millions of women at multiple times.

7.Finally... Risk it all... this is your legacy.

 

[procanto]

RE: Remember and Never Forget.

"Never forget" is a punitive way of saying never forget the lessons learned in life, often the hard way.

"Always remember" is a positive way of saying to always remember the good things that have happened in life. The first phrase is negative reinforcement and the second phrase is positive reinforcement.

 

[Adma]

"Never forget" is a punitive way of saying never forget the lessons learned in life, often the hard way.

"Always remember" is a positive way of saying to always remember the good things that have happened in life. The first phrase is negative reinforcement and the second phrase is positive reinforcement.

The secret to life... is balance

 

[justiceseeker]

The secret to life... is balance

This "mechanism" you speak of is so true. I don't think there's a guy out here who hasn't experienced that. All the sudden, out of the blue, the rug is pulled out from underneath you and it's over. Men do it too, but it truly is a feature many females possess. I've said it many times, you can to everything right, and she could still dump your ass.

Have you ever wondered why your grandparents stayed together? Or how come these old couples you see while dining out or walking in the park didn't get divorced? It's because in their day, marriage and relationships meant something. The women didn't pick up and run at the first sign of trouble. They were women with morals and integrity.

Ever wonder why women these days will dump your ass so fast? It's because our society bred them that way. 50 years ago, a woman wouldn't have the nerve to slut around or jump from guy to guy. It was considered trashy and abhorrent. But now, women have carte blanch to mess around with as many guys as men do women. Is that fair? sure it is. But women want the best of both worlds. They want to hor around, yet still be treated like ladies. They want the perks that come a long with being a woman, but none of the responsibilities. This in it's totality presents a huge problem for most men these days. Now we have women who have no qualms about being a hor, and who have the advantage of being female. That advantage gives them a much wider choice of mates than any man will ever have. These two things combined together make it very difficult for any relationship to sustain itself longterm. Regardless of what anyone tells you, women will always have more choices than you and this will always make her more likely to dump your ass.

 

[VIVAlasVEGASBaby]

bump

 

[bdl1411]

Wow guys, I feel like I'm spying....but you all are funny. Here I am thinking all men suck...and there's a bunch of men thinking how much women suck.

But one things clear; humans have this "mechanism", not women. I think if you talked to women who've been suddenly broken up with, they would say the same thing...."everything was going good...what happened?" Maybe everything wasn't going good from the other person's perspective. Politeness is a biotch. No one likes to hurt feelings face to face...so they act like they are enjoying themselves, confusing you, but secretly they are not enjoying themselves and gathering up the nerve to dump you. Women are not evil. This is hard for me to say, but men are not evil. Some PEOPLE suck...some men...some women.

 

[Remulak]

Brilliant post, nothing new but well stated. A firm kick in the ass for anyone who fell back into the AFC routine and trying to figure out what went wrong. I'd put it in the bible if it were up to me.

 

[Luke Skywalker]

I do not think there is a mechanism other than the fact that you are deriving your joy too much from her, and like everything in life, you may be happy for a moment, but then that's life, your source of happiness is eventually going to go away. I think you have to find a source of happiness that is constant and that can not fail. There is nothing like that in this world. Even on here people tell you not to base your joy and sence of happiness on women.

Just like anything in life, I hear stories all the time -- people put their savings on a dream holiday and the plane crashes, a guy was engaged to be married to a woman and they were going to move in their home -- the guy died in an accident, or you win the lottery just to find out you have life threatening cancer that cant be cured with all the money in the world a week later, it's like life has this irony that when you think something is going smoothly, the rug gets pulled out.