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Under the "iterated prisoner's dilemma" part of GAME THEORY, you are supposed to trust the other party at first, and then expect the4m to duplicate their initial behavior in subsequent iterations. This way, you don't offend the trustworthy the first time, but don't let anyone fool you twice.
Applied to seduction, this gives you "reluctant PUA game." How does it work? Simple:
1. You do what I did, only intentionally. As a teenager, or at the beginning of your VCABM (Virginal Crash And Burn Mission and Valuable Coaching and Bootcamp Method), you set out in search for your SOULMATE. You know, the one every woman PROMISES you will just show up one day and everything will fall into place. I call this the "Magic Hottie," a name based on the "Magic Negro" stock character from films.
2. While waiting for your soulmate, you remain AFC, and develop LJBFS with any super-elites you meet, but no other LJBFs. In the intentional VCABM, you never get oneitis, a mistake I had made with my "one true lust" and then with Kate. Actually it wasn't a mistake, but it's tougher to do with the VCABM, and it's stronger if you run game on other chicks while waiting for that soulmate.
3. As your skills improve, in large part due to the LJBF with the super-elites, you'll get more aggressive in pursuing them, with rejection less of a problem because you'll have nothing left to learn from the LJBF, so you don't nee the friendzone so much. You might even date other girls/womdn during this phase, but your "designated soulmate" should be sexier to you than any other woman you've ever met, and you should have at least an LJBF with her, or be "talking" (courtin, etc.). This is the position I got into with the OTL and with Kate a year later.
4. The OTL wound up choosing a rich guy over me, becoming a golddigger in front of my eyes. As I was financially disqualified, she couldn't have been "the one" as I had no chance of winnning. However, she left me one woman away and ready to pursue my ultimate designated soulmate, "Kate." I did all of this as a classic AFC beta nice guy, since women just KNEW I would one day find the "right woman." That right woman was Kate.
5. You will generally meet your "Kate" at the tail end of the VCABM, when your "PUA skills" are ready to be deployed. With your designated-soulmate, however, you don't run PUA game on her, unless you want to resolve things. I did this with Kate and that's how she wound up in my dorm room at 2:30 a.m.. to retrieve the coat she had INTENTIONALLY left there at my keg party from earlier, a party thrown strictly for her benefit: my roommate was away, I paid for the keg, two friends hosted it in the bathroom, with the party in their room, leaving my room alone for isolation of Kate. Plan worked to perfection, which shocked me.
6. At some point, ask your designated-soulmate out on a date. Or just have sex with her in your dorm as I could have with Kate, who definitely wanted me, but only wanted a hookup. I would learn twenty-five years later that she would marry NO ONE.
7. Kate cancelled our date a half-hour before, breaking my heart. She then broke my heart even worse a fwe months later, leading to my "bar meltdown," because she said things that caused me to fall in love with her, KNOW I was falling in love with her, and specifically why, all while she is there with her boyfriend (a fun guy she later dumped), and I knew I could never have my "one true love.' I also knew I'd never find anyone as compatible, and twenty-six years later, I can still say that I haven't.
8. If your "Kate" marries you, it's game over, and you win, something the PUA does not experience, which is why the AFC should try this first. By edoing this, he has played by the rules, done what he is supposed to, and "fate" is not supposed to let him down. When it does let you down, as it likely will, you can now say you "tried it their way," picked a woman you wanted to marry, did not play games, and look where it got you.
9. Resist all pressure to find a "DupliKate." Women will try to tell you that you never loved your "Kate," but they just want you to SETTLE, often for them. Don't let them do this. They are basically saying that you are not ALLOWED to love a woman who does not love you back, i.e., that your feelings are meaninless.
10. Three years after this, in 1988, I sent a birthday card to Kate so she would have my new address, and so I would know she rejected me by not contacting me. At this point, I let go of her, and was ready to take all the things she taught me about myself, and all the things the OTL taught me about "game," and unleashed my "inner PUA" on the rest of the hot women in the viciniity. I did just that. RELUCTANTLY.
As I began succeeding with super-elites, they all wanted me to "give women a chance." I never did. I argued that if my feelings meant so much, that Kate would have been my wife, and if not, I wasn't gonig to settle. This was how I truly felt, so it was not a "game." This, of course, made me a challenge, truly hard to get, and it kept me out of being tied down at any time, save for four months I took a girlfriend just to see what it would be like. I wound up dumping her in the middle of a meal at a restaurant.
Beautiful women will not be able to STAND the reluctant PUA, because she can't tell him to be a nice guy (he tried that), wait for "the one" (tried that too), or to just call the first woman to say yes his soulmate (no way). Since you've already tried her advice, and it failed, she will not be credible with future advice, and must endorse your status quo, which is you getting laid by hot women, and not having to be a boyfirned to do this. Not because you CANNOT be a great huysband or boyfriend, but because the woman you would have been so great for, just didn't want you, and this is the ONLY alternative.
Her only option to stop your fun at this point is to MARRY you.
My book explains the VCABM and this fully, and how to integrate all of it. After the wasted time and the heartbreak, once I recovered, by 1988, my game was unstoppable for the next twelve years or so, until age finally slowed me down.
I highly recommend this approach for all men.
Ray Gordon
http://www.toosmarttofail.com/bettoroffsingle.pdf
Bettor Off Single: Why Commitment Is A Bad Gamble For Men
FREE!!!
Applied to seduction, this gives you "reluctant PUA game." How does it work? Simple:
1. You do what I did, only intentionally. As a teenager, or at the beginning of your VCABM (Virginal Crash And Burn Mission and Valuable Coaching and Bootcamp Method), you set out in search for your SOULMATE. You know, the one every woman PROMISES you will just show up one day and everything will fall into place. I call this the "Magic Hottie," a name based on the "Magic Negro" stock character from films.
2. While waiting for your soulmate, you remain AFC, and develop LJBFS with any super-elites you meet, but no other LJBFs. In the intentional VCABM, you never get oneitis, a mistake I had made with my "one true lust" and then with Kate. Actually it wasn't a mistake, but it's tougher to do with the VCABM, and it's stronger if you run game on other chicks while waiting for that soulmate.
3. As your skills improve, in large part due to the LJBF with the super-elites, you'll get more aggressive in pursuing them, with rejection less of a problem because you'll have nothing left to learn from the LJBF, so you don't nee the friendzone so much. You might even date other girls/womdn during this phase, but your "designated soulmate" should be sexier to you than any other woman you've ever met, and you should have at least an LJBF with her, or be "talking" (courtin, etc.). This is the position I got into with the OTL and with Kate a year later.
4. The OTL wound up choosing a rich guy over me, becoming a golddigger in front of my eyes. As I was financially disqualified, she couldn't have been "the one" as I had no chance of winnning. However, she left me one woman away and ready to pursue my ultimate designated soulmate, "Kate." I did all of this as a classic AFC beta nice guy, since women just KNEW I would one day find the "right woman." That right woman was Kate.
5. You will generally meet your "Kate" at the tail end of the VCABM, when your "PUA skills" are ready to be deployed. With your designated-soulmate, however, you don't run PUA game on her, unless you want to resolve things. I did this with Kate and that's how she wound up in my dorm room at 2:30 a.m.. to retrieve the coat she had INTENTIONALLY left there at my keg party from earlier, a party thrown strictly for her benefit: my roommate was away, I paid for the keg, two friends hosted it in the bathroom, with the party in their room, leaving my room alone for isolation of Kate. Plan worked to perfection, which shocked me.
6. At some point, ask your designated-soulmate out on a date. Or just have sex with her in your dorm as I could have with Kate, who definitely wanted me, but only wanted a hookup. I would learn twenty-five years later that she would marry NO ONE.
7. Kate cancelled our date a half-hour before, breaking my heart. She then broke my heart even worse a fwe months later, leading to my "bar meltdown," because she said things that caused me to fall in love with her, KNOW I was falling in love with her, and specifically why, all while she is there with her boyfriend (a fun guy she later dumped), and I knew I could never have my "one true love.' I also knew I'd never find anyone as compatible, and twenty-six years later, I can still say that I haven't.
8. If your "Kate" marries you, it's game over, and you win, something the PUA does not experience, which is why the AFC should try this first. By edoing this, he has played by the rules, done what he is supposed to, and "fate" is not supposed to let him down. When it does let you down, as it likely will, you can now say you "tried it their way," picked a woman you wanted to marry, did not play games, and look where it got you.
9. Resist all pressure to find a "DupliKate." Women will try to tell you that you never loved your "Kate," but they just want you to SETTLE, often for them. Don't let them do this. They are basically saying that you are not ALLOWED to love a woman who does not love you back, i.e., that your feelings are meaninless.
10. Three years after this, in 1988, I sent a birthday card to Kate so she would have my new address, and so I would know she rejected me by not contacting me. At this point, I let go of her, and was ready to take all the things she taught me about myself, and all the things the OTL taught me about "game," and unleashed my "inner PUA" on the rest of the hot women in the viciniity. I did just that. RELUCTANTLY.
As I began succeeding with super-elites, they all wanted me to "give women a chance." I never did. I argued that if my feelings meant so much, that Kate would have been my wife, and if not, I wasn't gonig to settle. This was how I truly felt, so it was not a "game." This, of course, made me a challenge, truly hard to get, and it kept me out of being tied down at any time, save for four months I took a girlfriend just to see what it would be like. I wound up dumping her in the middle of a meal at a restaurant.
Beautiful women will not be able to STAND the reluctant PUA, because she can't tell him to be a nice guy (he tried that), wait for "the one" (tried that too), or to just call the first woman to say yes his soulmate (no way). Since you've already tried her advice, and it failed, she will not be credible with future advice, and must endorse your status quo, which is you getting laid by hot women, and not having to be a boyfirned to do this. Not because you CANNOT be a great huysband or boyfriend, but because the woman you would have been so great for, just didn't want you, and this is the ONLY alternative.
Her only option to stop your fun at this point is to MARRY you.
My book explains the VCABM and this fully, and how to integrate all of it. After the wasted time and the heartbreak, once I recovered, by 1988, my game was unstoppable for the next twelve years or so, until age finally slowed me down.
I highly recommend this approach for all men.
Ray Gordon
http://www.toosmarttofail.com/bettoroffsingle.pdf
Bettor Off Single: Why Commitment Is A Bad Gamble For Men
FREE!!!