"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Reloaded: The Series... Negative Hits

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compliments can be both good and bad to use on strangers, they are just like pick up lines, now of course if you are a good DJ, and are sumwhat attractive, you can make it work, but mostly, from learning from others mistakes compliments arent to be used, but used sparingly.

Now dont think im saying DONT use compliments at all, i use them, but i dont do something like the pause hit, its more complexly played out, but has a higher effect.

its usable on strangers, i didnt create it, i found it on a website (i forgot wich one tho lol, mayb this one) adn i gave it a try, made a few modifications and change it around all the time, but still i wouldnt use it on sumone who doesnt sem a tad bit interested

compliments are liek saying "i love you" u shouldnt say htem unless ur pretty sure she can think of a compliment about u.

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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Hey Matrix

Do you think it would be good to follow up a pause-hit with a digits close? For example

M: You know, looking at your face at a thirty degree angle, I thought you were attractive, but now that I'm close to you(pause)
F: You what?
M: I still do. Let me get your number.

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I must step in here...

Some of these comments are just plain stupid.

No, the neg hit, is to make a high self esteem girl, jilted. To snap her out of her ego trip.


A tease is a humorous comment ment to get her laughing. Now this done by presenting something that is true, but nobody has ever said.

This humor appeals to women, something that is true and they cannot deny. This makes them laugh.


Matrix, their is the NEG-HIT and the TEASE..

People must have forgotten this...

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Originally posted by Blakis:
I must step in here...

Some of these comments are just plain stupid.

No, the neg hit, is to make a high self esteem girl, jilted. To snap her out of her ego trip.


A tease is a humorous comment ment to get her laughing. Now this done by presenting something that is true, but nobody has ever said.

This humor appeals to women, something that is true and they cannot deny. This makes them laugh.


Matrix, their is the NEG-HIT and the TEASE..

People must have forgotten this...

First... to answer Medallion's question, yeah I don't a problem asking for a girl's number afterwards, in fact if you look @ Lorenzo's field report post, someone created a "pause-hit" which already incorporated a # close, and he said it worked. Second, Blakis, you make a good point... there is a difference between a negative hit and a tease. With that said it is safe to surmise that what I have created would be a hybrid of the two things. Because of that curiousity you force women to have about your incoming comment, you are in a sense, "lowering her off her self-imposed pedestal" and since your comment will more than likely make her laugh... there's the tease. In fact, you're comments have given me the inspiration of the name of it. Instead of a "negative hit", this will be called... a charming tease of anticipation, or charm/tease anti-hit for short.

Reloaded... coming soon

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Matrix - Man no problem you using my ideas, I would love it. As long as you give me credit. I will post alot of information if i knew that i would get some status here for it.

I am here for one thing, to get status, and respect. If i don't I will leave. Point blank.


This Charming Tease as you call it, it also goes under a ****y and funny routine.. a basis for many highschool pickups.


It creates a 'void' in them, that you must 'fill.'

I like filling that void.

"Void" = lack of self esteem, feeling of insecurity, feeling of self doubt.

"Fill" = you take give them more attention, make them even happier then when you teased them, make them horney, get *****.

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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matrix, good job in combining ideas, i love it!! im deff. going to try this stuff on monday


Originally posted by Lost:
would it help if u kept it even longer..? like "blahblahblah but..." her:..what?!?! "i shouldnt tell you" her
thinking oh no he must not like me?!?! tats why he doesnt wanna tell me!!) . and then u tell her.
i dont see why u would want to take it longer? keeping her anxious to hear ur reply for a few seconds is enough, i dont reccoment taking it longer...
 

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All right guys... I decided (as Blakis brought it to my attention... there's your credit) that I will call this a charm-hit for short. The definition will be: "A compliment that uses a pause and a look of uncertainty that raises the curiosity in a girl. This uncertainty in the compliment will, suprise her/tease her and force her to lower herself from her own pedestal." Here are some examples:

"Hey, you know from back there when the light was hitting your face from a 30 degree angle… I thought you were attractive. But now that I am close to you (look of uncertainty + dramatic pause) I realized that I was right.”

“When I first met you I thought that you were cute… (look of uncertainty + dramatic pause) fortunately for you… I still do.”

These were provided from Conradd:
"When i first met you i thought you fit perfectly in those jeans... and baby.. you still do..."

"I've always thought that you had a great sense of style, but lately I've realized that.... you most definitely do."

"You know... I really like those jeans of yours... (look of uncertainty)except only one problem."

"What's that?"

"(****y smile) They don't give that great ass of yours enough credit."

"If I told you that you were attractive, would you get offended?"

"No."

"All right then... (dramatic pause) I won't. (****y smile)"

This one is from DJoneday:
"God, at first i thought you were pretty cool...but...not cool enough to ask for you number. (****y smile)"

If you have some more... you know were to send them.

Reloaded: The Series... Uncovering Victoria's Secret, coming soon

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Matrix, i have to congratulate you. I consider this revolutionary.

One more detail to explain how it works:

The first part does knock them off their pedestal. The second part however, relieves them of their uncertainty and doubt so they are comfortably knocked off their pedestal
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"High risk can yield only high loss or high reward."

"Ignorance is a blessing."

"If you don't know the meaning of life why are you trying to win? Isn't that the same as not knowing what you're fighting for?"

"Life and death are the same thing"

-Yours Truly
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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also someone should come up with a way to incorporate this idea without the pause.. that would make it easier to use multiple times.

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"High risk can yield only high loss or high reward."

"Ignorance is a blessing."

"If you don't know the meaning of life why are you trying to win? Isn't that the same as not knowing what you're fighting for?"

"Life and death are the same thing"

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Originally posted by DJoneday:
This in the bible yet?
I'm workin on it
. I'll put it in with a few other posts that belong.

Actually, I'm swamped right now. If ANYONE, or EVERYONE could take a look on the past few pages on this forum and TIPS, and emial me the links of things that you think are bible worthy. I've asked befor and never have any turnouts. But I really need the help. My emial is in my sig, thanks to anyone who helps.

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aha! ur busted man! i caught u plagerizing!(spelling?)

neway, ur pause hit, even tho im sure was unintentional, has been one of the original neghit things

and this is hte website http://www.askmen.com/love/player_60/71d_love_games.html

that is a lot like you pause hit thing, but except its called neghit, and it has some god examples of things to say as well, and a convo example, of not sounding afcish

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Oreo...you've got way to much time on your hands. Oh wait, I forgot...your parents won't let you date!

Heh, again nice post Matrix.

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*shakes head* Oreo... Oreo... Oreo, although I am quite a fan of AskMen.com, I would not take something from them. If you would check your little link that you put up, you would know that that thread by The Player... which I read, came out last Tuesday, and my post came out way before that. Umm... just something to think about.

Reloaded: The Series... So to Speak.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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well obviously i see that i cant be sarcastic over the internet (d'oh!)

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*Bump* Reloaded: The Series... Uncovering Victoria's Secret. Check it out guys!
 

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*Bump* Reloaded: The Series... Uncovering Victoria's Secret. Check it out guys!
 

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"Everybody sees what you appear to be, few feel what you are,"
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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