Relationships that leave you permanently damaged / not the same

[demonic]

Ok i know what the reply will be to this already, move on, go out and screw 10 women and it will be ok.

Well i've gone out and screwed 2 girls, one of them twice...and nothing seem's to be able to help me forget a past relationship that went bad.Maybe it's cause she works in the same Hospital i do and thats why i still think about her.

but come on, the other 2 girls i slept with were better looking and i had better sex with them.but i just have this really bad outlook on life now cause of my past.

I see girls as objects that temp make me happy...after i've slept with them i feel so empty and depressed.I guess i wanna hear that there is a light at the end of the tunnel?..

Demonic

 

[Interceptor]

There is ........
.

....but it's not Sleeping with more women.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

There is ........
.

....but it's not Sleeping with more women.

Wait a second... Are you saying that there's more to life than just bedding women? If it's not Internet porn, what else is there????

 

[demonic]

There is ........
.

....but it's not Sleeping with more women.

ok now you got me intrested!

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Hahaha

Demonic! Look around you! This wonderful magical place has all of your answers!

*spins around like a disney princess in sosuave's ballroom, fairy dust flying from every pore of his hands*


Seriously, look for a lot of Interceptor's past post as well as Roll Tomassi. Just one of many fairy Godfathers to help you on your way to the castle of "true self".



Lalalalalalala!!

*Skips away. Butterflies happily follow*

 

[Interceptor]

Demonic,

Look,man..
..if your life sucked before you got a woman, then whatever good this woman brings into your life is temporary.

Because once she leaves, you go back to your sucky life.

The Questions is:

Why does your life suck?



Second, what are you doing to make your life NOT suck?

And if you're not, why NOT???



Work on making a better life.
Plan out a Personal MISSION STATEMENT.

Pay attention to areas of your life that you need to manage.

You need to manage your

Health

Wealth

Well Being

Add to this the Pursuit of HIGH CHARACTER and you're on the path to


DURABLE FULFILLMENT

Demon, dude..Ill be very blunt with you.

You like a lot of guys will KEEP on running into the SAME OLD PROBLEMS AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN if you don't maturely, and intelligently pay attention and FOCUS your energies into these things becaseu this is what strong, cpabale mature men whom DESIRE SUCCESS and HAPPINESS do!!!

And I sound like a broken record telling you guys the same thing again and again.........

WORK ON YOUR GOALS IN ACCOMPLISHING YOUR MISSION!



Your attention to achieving your GOALS is the "ANCHOR" that keeps you ROCK STEADY and ON POINT AND FOCUSED ...


.like a huge battlehsip in the ocean.


Yeah, you're on the ocean.........an unpredicatable environment.
....but youve got a huge mother fvcking steel covered battleship to ride those crests and valleys, Demon.


Mature masculine Men go out into life, into UNCERTAINTY and UNPREDICATBILITY and ACKNOWLEDGE IT and their FEAR and APPREHENSION AND GO OUT THERE AND FACE IT ANYWAY!!!!!!!!

They eventually FLOURISH in UNCERTAINTY AND UNPREDICTABLITIY.


Dude, it's not another 'pick up line', or 'the right thing to say". or 'when do I call" or "how do I not look needy?""

It's not about purely DOING.in the sense of ACTING...

..its found in the BEING.


All this is the PROCESS of becoming a strong Masculine Mature Man.


Mature masuline men DO THESE THINGS

They are Self AWARE, and they TAKE CARE of themselves, physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
They GROW and LEARN and EXPEREINCE, and they DEAL with the challenges.

THEY DONT RUN AWAY!

THEY FACE THEM!



When you NEGLECT these things, YOU PLACE A HEAVY HEAVY HEAVY BURDEN ON WOMEN to SATISFY you.

And she never will...


So you must do these things for yourself. For Freedom, Liberation, Happiness, Fulfillment.
This is where you will find your INNER POWER.

IN the FREEDOM of your CREATION.
YOUR "BEING".

YOUR BECOMING.....

You have a lot of DE PROGRAMMING to do.

 

[reset]

^gold.

 

[demonic]

Demonic,

Look,man..
..if your life sucked before you got a woman, then whatever good this woman brings into your life is temporary.

Because once she leaves, you go back to your sucky life.

The Questions is:

Why does your life suck?



Second, what are you doing to make your life NOT suck?

And if you're not, why NOT???



Work on making a better life.
Plan out a Personal MISSION STATEMENT.

Pay attention to areas of your life that you need to manage.

You need to manage your

Health

Wealth

Well Being

Add to this the Pursuit of HIGH CHARACTER and you're on the path to


DURABLE FULFILLMENT

Demon, dude..Ill be very blunt with you.

You like a lot of guys will KEEP on running into the SAME OLD PROBLEMS AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN if you don't maturely, and intelligently pay attention and FOCUS your energies into these things becaseu this is what strong, cpabale mature men whom DESIRE SUCCESS and HAPPINESS do!!!

And I sound like a broken record telling you guys the same thing again and again.........

WORK ON YOUR GOALS IN ACCOMPLISHING YOUR MISSION!



Your attention to achieving your GOALS is the "ANCHOR" that keeps you ROCK STEADY and ON POINT AND FOCUSED ...


.like a huge battlehsip in the ocean.


Yeah, you're on the ocean.........an unpredicatable environment.
....but youve got a huge mother fvcking steel covered battleship to ride those crests and valleys, Demon.


Mature masculine Men go out into life, into UNCERTAINTY and UNPREDICATBILITY and ACKNOWLEDGE IT and their FEAR and APPREHENSION AND GO OUT THERE AND FACE IT ANYWAY!!!!!!!!

They eventually FLOURISH in UNCERTAINTY AND UNPREDICTABLITIY.


Dude, it's not another 'pick up line', or 'the right thing to say". or 'when do I call" or "how do I not look needy?""

It's not about purely DOING.in the sense of ACTING...

..its found in the BEING.


All this is the PROCESS of becoming a strong Masculine Mature Man.


Mature masuline men DO THESE THINGS

They are Self AWARE, and they TAKE CARE of themselves, physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
They GROW and LEARN and EXPEREINCE, and they DEAL with the challenges.

THEY DONT RUN AWAY!

THEY FACE THEM!



When you NEGLECT these things, YOU PLACE A HEAVY HEAVY HEAVY BURDEN ON WOMEN to SATISFY you.

And she never will...


So you must do these things for yourself. For Freedom, Liberation, Happiness, Fulfillment.
This is where you will find your INNER POWER.

IN the FREEDOM of your CREATION.
YOUR "BEING".

YOUR BECOMING.....

You have a lot of DE PROGRAMMING to do.

Very very good post, but the thing is i don't consider my life to be crap...i've joined a gym for my health and am slowly trying to control my money.

I just keep getting this feeling that maybe i'm not meant to be with anyone and the most i can go for is ons/sex....i know it's pathetic but that's what i feel like.

Plus i can only ever "Pull" girls in clubs and bars.....i can never actually attract girls anywhere else.

Demonic

 

[Axcell]

How long has it been since you got "damaged" from this first girl? Honestly, I've felt the same way too. The ONLY way I got over my girl, was that I was able to use my DJ talents, win the girl back, and than break up with her.

I know it sounds cold, but it seems to be the only way I, personally, can get over a girl. When a girl dumps you, your life feels incomplete. YOU need to remember that this girl is NOT your life, she is a PART of your life. Win her back, and once you get her, you will HOPEFULLY realize you don't need her in your life, and you will dump her. There you go, your problems are complete, and you will hopefully (in a few months... maybe even in a few days) meet somebody new, more exciting, and hopefully have a relationship that is somewhat more stable than that previous one so you won't have to repeat this process again.

So, the ultimate question is: "Axcell, how do I win her back?" It's simple - demonstrate higher value and act like you are completely fine with the decision she has made. You said she works at the same place you do, start improving your social value in your workplace and talk to a large amount of females. No need to particularly flirt with females RIGHT when she comes by, just casually talk to a large amount of females, and SHE will notice it. Jealousy is key in women - take advantage of it!

Oh, and one more thing. Let's just say she does happen to fall for you again, read some threads in this forum on how to become the "prize" in a relationship. Because if you were the prize in that relationship, you wouldn't have run into these problems.

Best of luck,
Axcell.

 

[demonic]

I think it's the feeling that i want some revenge in some way, like to be able to regain some of the control/power i had lost.

I just got an msn off me and have decided to ignore it to regain alittle power...it's sad i know, but the feeling of giving up all my time on this girl and being treated like **** has forced me into that.

 

[woods]

Just keep moving forward. Sooner or later a you'll find someone who sparks you up again. Just use this time WISELY.

ONS dont do much for me, for some reason. I'll take them, dont get me wrong, but I usually cant even get off, but they are a confidence builder, if anything.

I HAVE fvcked 10 other women since my ex, and she still haunts me, because she was SO hot, SO good in bed, rich, creative, and everything else a man could fantasize about. Unfortunately, she was a compulsive liar, cheater, insane, and quite possibly, a high class hooker! (try getting past THAT on!)

Yeah, every ONS I have, doesnt compare, but There have been girls, that I never managed sealed the deal with, but they made me forget about her, temporarily, and you'll find them too. Keep plugging away, and keep a good attitude, and keep improving, and someday, you'll thank the bytch for breaking your heart, and forcing you on a path to something better. THAT, is when she will realize how bad she fvcked up! EVERY EX I have is still in love with me, cuz of this attitude. There is no better revenge than that!

 

[demonic]

Just keep moving forward. Sooner or later a you'll find someone who sparks you up again. Just use this time WISELY.

ONS dont do much for me, for some reason. I'll take them, dont get me wrong, but I usually cant even get off, but they are a confidence builder, if anything.

I HAVE fvcked 10 other women since my ex, and she still haunts me, because she was SO hot, SO good in bed, rich, creative, and everything else a man could fantasize about. Unfortunately, she was a compulsive liar, cheater, insane, and quite possibly, a high class hooker! (try getting past THAT on!)

Yeah, every ONS I have, doesnt compare, but There have been girls, that I never managed sealed the deal with, but they made me forget about her, temporarily, and you'll find them too. Keep plugging away, and keep a good attitude, and keep improving, and someday, you'll thank the bytch for breaking your heart, and forcing you on a path to something better. THAT, is when she will realize how bad she fvcked up! EVERY EX I have is still in love with me, cuz of this attitude. There is no better revenge than that!

That's pretty useful woods, thanks!

I did meet a girl friday night which i should be going on a date with sometime next week if all goes to plan so i'll see what happens with this and where it goes.

Demonic

 

[tick37]

Bad relationships should change you for the better. It should make you smarter and stronger. If you've been so affected by a past relationship, maybe you need to look at yourself. You're not being very strong, and that strength can only be found within yourself. I've been through some bad stuff, but I'm still the same person and even better. You are who you are, and no one can change that. Don't let something mess you up because it went wrong. You can have something better, and once you believe that, then it will happen.

I'm 34 and separated from my wife. She cheated on me, but I've let it go and have forgiven her. Now I'm having the time of my life. I'm dating several women and making so many new male friends. This would not have happened without believing I was better than the crap I kept taking. I was allowing all the bs happen to me. I'm done with taking crap and life couldn't be better.

You're life will not change and your thoughts will not change until you've decided to change them. There are more things far more tragic in life than you losing a partner. Life offers change and be happy that it does. Move on and go on because there is so much out there. So much more!

 

[thederekeffect1]

Demonic,

Look,man..
..if your life sucked before you got a woman, then whatever good this woman brings into your life is temporary.

Because once she leaves, you go back to your sucky life.

The Questions is:

Why does your life suck?



Second, what are you doing to make your life NOT suck?

And if you're not, why NOT???



Work on making a better life.
Plan out a Personal MISSION STATEMENT.

Pay attention to areas of your life that you need to manage.

You need to manage your

Health

Wealth

Well Being

Add to this the Pursuit of HIGH CHARACTER and you're on the path to


DURABLE FULFILLMENT

Demon, dude..Ill be very blunt with you.

You like a lot of guys will KEEP on running into the SAME OLD PROBLEMS AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN if you don't maturely, and intelligently pay attention and FOCUS your energies into these things becaseu this is what strong, cpabale mature men whom DESIRE SUCCESS and HAPPINESS do!!!

And I sound like a broken record telling you guys the same thing again and again.........

WORK ON YOUR GOALS IN ACCOMPLISHING YOUR MISSION!



Your attention to achieving your GOALS is the "ANCHOR" that keeps you ROCK STEADY and ON POINT AND FOCUSED ...


.like a huge battlehsip in the ocean.


Yeah, you're on the ocean.........an unpredicatable environment.
....but youve got a huge mother fvcking steel covered battleship to ride those crests and valleys, Demon.


Mature masculine Men go out into life, into UNCERTAINTY and UNPREDICATBILITY and ACKNOWLEDGE IT and their FEAR and APPREHENSION AND GO OUT THERE AND FACE IT ANYWAY!!!!!!!!

They eventually FLOURISH in UNCERTAINTY AND UNPREDICTABLITIY.


Dude, it's not another 'pick up line', or 'the right thing to say". or 'when do I call" or "how do I not look needy?""

It's not about purely DOING.in the sense of ACTING...

..its found in the BEING.


All this is the PROCESS of becoming a strong Masculine Mature Man.


Mature masuline men DO THESE THINGS

They are Self AWARE, and they TAKE CARE of themselves, physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
They GROW and LEARN and EXPEREINCE, and they DEAL with the challenges.

THEY DONT RUN AWAY!

THEY FACE THEM!



When you NEGLECT these things, YOU PLACE A HEAVY HEAVY HEAVY BURDEN ON WOMEN to SATISFY you.

And she never will...


So you must do these things for yourself. For Freedom, Liberation, Happiness, Fulfillment.
This is where you will find your INNER POWER.

IN the FREEDOM of your CREATION.
YOUR "BEING".

YOUR BECOMING.....

You have a lot of DE PROGRAMMING to do.

I had a whole response thought out, but this guy just gave some golden advice. You can't top advice like that.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Maybe it's cause she works in the same Hospital i do and thats why i still think about her.

Ding ding! I think this is the problem. I still feel traumatized from a girl at work I got involved with. It's because every time I pull into that parking lot I think about her. Sometimes I see her car and it reminds me of everything.

I even catch myself LOOKING for her car to see if she is there.

Now I completely understand why people say don't mess with girls from work.

 

[betterthandead]

Ok i know what the reply will be to this already, move on, go out and screw 10 women and it will be ok.

This pretty much sums up your attitude with life or dating in general.

 

[demonic]

Ding ding! I think this is the problem. I still feel traumatized from a girl at work I got involved with. It's because every time I pull into that parking lot I think about her. Sometimes I see her car and it reminds me of everything.

I even catch myself LOOKING for her car to see if she is there.

Now I completely understand why people say don't mess with girls from work.

Yeah that's one of the problems but this is gonna be as clear as day now as to what my problem is.

Ok this i'm alittle ashamed of but i'm a man and will tell you why i think i can't let go of this girl.

At the age of 24 nearly 25 she was my FIRST relationship!.yeah i know what your thinking guys that i'm a loser or whatever else.

but i've had COUNTLESS girls as in ons and fbuddy to have sex with, just never had a girlfriend and i think thats the reason why i can't let go.cause it was new to me and the girl liked me rather than used me.

Also atm i'm just thinking that i'll never meet a nice girl who i can trust and love and everything.

Pathetic on my part but i'm being open an honest.

Demonic

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Yeah that's one of the problems but this is gonna be as clear as day now as to what my problem is.

Ok this i'm alittle ashamed of but i'm a man and will tell you why i think i can't let go of this girl.

At the age of 24 nearly 25 she was my FIRST relationship!.yeah i know what your thinking guys that i'm a loser or whatever else.

but i've had COUNTLESS girls as in ons and fbuddy to have sex with, just never had a girlfriend and i think thats the reason why i can't let go.cause it was new to me and the girl liked me rather than used me.

Also atm i'm just thinking that i'll never meet a nice girl who i can trust and love and everything.

Pathetic on my part but i'm being open an honest.

Demonic

Well you still think about her every time you go into work. It makes it 10 times harder to get over. And then you see her at work laughing and smiling while you are dying inside, and it gets even worse.

Don't mess with girls from work!!

 

[tick37]

Let her go completely, and she will be back and astonished at your new found confidence. It happens every time, BUT do not take her back. Stay strong and this will build your courage and keep you strong for the next one. Guard you heart as the Bible says.

Keep up some walls and watch for the red flags. Dump chicks immediately that are playing games or disrespecting you. Forget this chick and find yourself. GAL - get a life. Do things that make you happy.

Find your own happiness and not from other women. That's where you fail. When they become your happiness, it never lasts.

 

[demonic]

Well you still think about her every time you go into work. It makes it 10 times harder to get over. And then you see her at work laughing and smiling while you are dying inside, and it gets even worse.

Don't mess with girls from work!!

yeah true and now i've learnt that, it's like everytime i walk around the hospital i think of her cause i'm worried i'll bump into her...then i have her msn me which i ignore.

i'm not asking for a forget all pill or anything, just wondering when will this stop?...it's been 8 weeks and 3 ons later and still can't get this girl outta my head ;(

Demonic