Im in my 4th and final year at school, and maybe that plays a factor into it, I can't stop thinking that I should settle down with one girl, as being in a committed relationship to me seems like you are more mature and over the "hunting season" the problem is I always feel like I can do better and if I settle for one, another HB 9 is just around the corner...
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Relationships = maturity?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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No. Never. Not in a million years.mtlwlu said:
zekko
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I don't think I could be in a LTR with an HB9. I am wary of them, I feel like they have gotten too much male attention during their lives, and it has spoiled them for being satisfied in a LTR. I don't trust them, they have too many options. If you marry them, they will still be getting hit on by other men constantly. If one eventually strikes her fancy, she will divorce you and take half of your possessions. No thanks, I will pass.
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LOL yeah sure, relationships make you a more mature person. Just like how girls always say nice guys are "mature" compared to those "immature" players who need to grow up.
It's all BS man. This has been put out for years to guilt men into settling down into relationships whether they want to or not. As if that is the "right" or "moral" thing to do and it makes them a better person. Too many guys don't think for themselves and are brainwashed to feel worthless without a girlfriend, so get into relationships just for the sake of it. This results in choosing totally unsuitable women and getting used and abused.
There's probably not much point in taking women too seriously until your mid-30s, even if you want to marry. I would also say wait till you get the rest of your life together before even considering an LTR - so many guys on here get dumped and don't know what to do, when they weren't even ready to deal with a relationship in the first place. Also you gotta screen girls carefully so you don't end up with a ho in disguise.
And the most important thing, men are designed to spread their seed. To sample a variety of pvssy. Like you said, there could always be a better girl around the corner so just have fun with them for now.
It's all BS man. This has been put out for years to guilt men into settling down into relationships whether they want to or not. As if that is the "right" or "moral" thing to do and it makes them a better person. Too many guys don't think for themselves and are brainwashed to feel worthless without a girlfriend, so get into relationships just for the sake of it. This results in choosing totally unsuitable women and getting used and abused.
There's probably not much point in taking women too seriously until your mid-30s, even if you want to marry. I would also say wait till you get the rest of your life together before even considering an LTR - so many guys on here get dumped and don't know what to do, when they weren't even ready to deal with a relationship in the first place. Also you gotta screen girls carefully so you don't end up with a ho in disguise.
And the most important thing, men are designed to spread their seed. To sample a variety of pvssy. Like you said, there could always be a better girl around the corner so just have fun with them for now.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
maturity
–noun
1. the state of being mature; ripeness: The fruit will reach maturity in a few days.
2. full development; perfected condition: maturity of judgment; to bring a plan to maturity.
Nope...nothing about relationships in there.
Let's see, I pay my bills, work two jobs, have a business, spend lots of time with my daughter, take care of my aging parents,pay taxes and follow politics like it's the playoffs. I read newsweek, wall street journal and time on regular basis...I cover my healthcare cost for my daughter, I'm helping my brother reorganize his business and I do some charity work...none of that has anything to do with a relationship. You get me?
–noun
1. the state of being mature; ripeness: The fruit will reach maturity in a few days.
2. full development; perfected condition: maturity of judgment; to bring a plan to maturity.
Nope...nothing about relationships in there.
Let's see, I pay my bills, work two jobs, have a business, spend lots of time with my daughter, take care of my aging parents,pay taxes and follow politics like it's the playoffs. I read newsweek, wall street journal and time on regular basis...I cover my healthcare cost for my daughter, I'm helping my brother reorganize his business and I do some charity work...none of that has anything to do with a relationship. You get me?
Paintballguy
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Don't ever feel like you "need" to be in a relationship because that is ridiculous. That is partly why there are so many divorces. People feel the need to be in a relationship, and they jump into a relationship with the first person they can find.
everytime that you "feel" you just have to be in a relationship, you will end up settling with a girl you shouldn't have... You will feel a lot of internal pressure to settle, so you will overlook a lot of defects that will come back to haunt you during the relationship.