"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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relationships getting booooring....

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how can you keep a relationship alive? not even been going out that long and theres already that odd silence when we talk on the phone.

should i just leave her a bit... because i hate when it gets like this and you feel like your being a ***** by calling her all the time with nothing to say.

should i carry on as if we were still single and dating. things seemed a lot better back then....:box:

at the moment im broke, she's broke so like going out and spending money for fun isn't really an option.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You could talk to her about your relationship and see where its going.
Or go with what you think and see other women.
 
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Elti Boi said:
how can you keep a relationship alive? not even been going out that long and theres already that odd silence when we talk on the phone.

should i just leave her a bit... because i hate when it gets like this and you feel like your being a ***** by calling her all the time with nothing to say.

should i carry on as if we were still single and dating. things seemed a lot better back then....:box:

at the moment im broke, she's broke so like going out and spending money for fun isn't really an option.
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What makes you interested in one another aside from looks?
 
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If your gut instinct is telling you that this relationship is going nowhere you should be the one to end it before she does.

But if its just telling you to try and liven things up by doing something different try that and see what happens.

You've already got an idea of what you could try to do and if you feel it would work go for it.
 
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Get a Job. Use your mind to come up with some fun ideas to do with this girl. Even if it's walking the dog to the park. Atleast its something different.

Don't call her if you have nothing to talk about.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Elti Boi said:
how can you keep a relationship alive? not even been going out that long and theres already that odd silence when we talk on the phone.

should i just leave her a bit... because i hate when it gets like this and you feel like your being a ***** by calling her all the time with nothing to say.

should i carry on as if we were still single and dating. things seemed a lot better back then....:box:

at the moment im broke, she's broke so like going out and spending money for fun isn't really an option.
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Some of us are not made for relationships. Especially at a young age you are 17 you should be sleeping with a new girl every week not locking yourself down. The realationship wont last so all you are doing is wasting time in a boring game. Do not feel pressure to be in a relationship just because it is what society expects. If you are bored you should not be monogamous, go out , experiment and enjoy your teens. There is plenty of time for boredom when you get married at 30 something.
 
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its only natural that you get bored of the girl your with after a few months. Dump her, find a new girl. Dont be a ***** and just push it off.
 
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Archaic said:
its only natural that you get bored of the girl your with after a few months. Dump her, find a new girl. Dont be a ***** and just push it off.
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It does not have to get boring. My relationship with my ex-girlfriend never got boring because I kept it fresh.

we broke up for another reason, we just weren't compatible. We drifted apart.

My current girlfriend and I always have fun and I try to keep it like we are still dating. My current girlfriend now goes to the gym with me and joined the swing club with me. We treat it as if we are dating. We put our best foot forward.

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Elti Boi said:
how can you keep a relationship alive? not even been going out that long and theres already that odd silence when we talk on the phone.

should i just leave her a bit... because i hate when it gets like this and you feel like your being a ***** by calling her all the time with nothing to say.

should i carry on as if we were still single and dating. things seemed a lot better back then....:box:

at the moment im broke, she's broke so like going out and spending money for fun isn't really an option.
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2 things.

why are you calling her all the time to talk about nothing?

and if you can't have a good relationship without having to spend money, maybe you need to find something that interests you that is free!
 
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