"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Relationship question

SeeThruIt

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Ok guys, it's been a while since I've been exclusive to one girl.

My question is, what's considered a normal amount of communication throughout the day with them via texts mostly.

Currently we only see each other 2-3 times a day so the rest of the week is just is keeping in touch through texting.

Is it normal to sometimes go a day without any communication or very little or is something like that considered a red flag? It's not that way but just curious what everyone experiences and what's a healthy dose for the relationship
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Some daily contact is "normal". Girls are slightly different but in general, if her interest in you is high, she will text or call you 3-20 x a day. A day never goes by where I don't get at least 10 texts from my gf. But like I said, all depends on interest level.

I've been in LTRs with girls who would go sometimes a full day or more with no contact. Bad sign, trust me. She's not into you, or has another guy.
 

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Colossus said:
Some daily contact is "normal". Girls are slightly different but in general, if her interest in you is high, she will text or call you 3-20 x a day. A day never goes by where I don't get at least 10 texts from my gf. But like I said, all depends on interest level.

I've been in LTRs with girls who would go sometimes a full day or more with no contact. Bad sign, trust me. She's not into you, or has another guy.
Yeah currently it's about 3-20 times a day. Sometimes I won't hear anything from her till she's out of work then get a text saying she misses me or just asking how I'm doing
 

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Continually diminishing quantity and quality of contact is not good. When she stops sharing things about her life and consistently settles for dry maintenance contact it means she's bored. Even one text a day is good if the quality of it is high. Doesn't always mean she's got another man of interest, but unless you change that there will be. Sometimes people just want some space so a day here and there of bare minimum contact isn't that bad. I try not to text much or talk on the phone so they put more effort into seeing me and there's more to talk about in person. You have to make in person contact to be reallymeaningful to her for that to work.
 

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At most you should be texting her three times in a rolling 24-hour period. Anything more and you risk becoming one of her acolyte Twitter b!tches.

Keep it short.
Keep it light.
Keep it moving.

Remember, one of the greatest gifts you can give a woman is the joy of missing you. Forever being at her beck-and-call will not only severely limit how feverish her imagination can be when thinking about you, but it will bore the absolute sh!t out of her.

Don't be her girlfriend.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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KarmaSutra said:
At most you should be texting her three times in a rolling 24-hour period. Anything more and you risk becoming one of her acolyte Twitter b!tches.

Keep it short.
Keep it light.
Keep it moving.

Remember, one of the greatest gifts you can give a woman is the joy of missing you. Forever being at her beck-and-call will not only severely limit how feverish her imagination can be when thinking about you, but it will bore the absolute sh!t out of her.

Don't be her girlfriend.
Yes I'd do this when dating randoms, but also in a relationship?
 

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Especially in a relationship. What the fvck do you think a relationship is? It's courtship extended, and mutually agreed upon, that you won't be sticking your pecker into a hole other than her three.
 

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What if you both live an hour away from each other? Which is the case. That's why we only see each other twice a week
 
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