some great posts here, they cover mostly everything imo.
I think a lotta guys(here) simply lost their faith in the traditional LTR. Personally I know I did. Besides that the process is always the same, right? Meet her a seduce her sleep with her, and after some time (3,6 12 months) the spark disappears. Meet a new girl , same shyt. RInce and repeat . After a while you get numb.
The initial power of the " first love syndrome" will deteriorate after negative experiences, and this is bound to happen to every man at least once. This 1st love syndrome thing is impossible to repair. BUT, the positive side of this might be that it's also expected from a man . A man meets women, gets burned, mans up. If you are 30+, a woman expects you to know how life works, including how LTR's tend to fail. Nothing wrong with that.
I said it before, most men ending up in the manosphere dont get there because they had so many positive experiences. If you want a more general view on LTR, a "one size fits all" forum like r/relationship will give different , maybe more balanced point of view. But it will be extremely "meat and potato " bluepilled. (Read some divorce threads, about how dudes were taking to the cleaners and were completely obvious to how it happened. You'll notice sosuave dives WAY deeper into the actually processes of game and the female mind ).
A man has to go through stages. Let no one fool you they are naturels. You gotta fall hard a few times and get reality checked to find your place in modern dating. And even then it's a never ending process.
I ve learned that once I am in scarcity with a woman,I am lost already. What helped with me was the realization that the inevitable will happen anyway. Like, going to a boxing gym being scared to get punched. Once you lose the fear, it actually becomes fun.
Basically your expectations of women and love needs adjustments if you wanna lose scarcity mindset. And that NOT a one day course, and can't be done without women in your life who used to"scare " you .