Relationship Help

[BigKyle]

Ok so me and this girl have been good friends for a while, just recently we started hanging out as more than just friends, and started daying, a few days after this we where talking, and she said she wanted to take a step back, she said

"i think that i need time to find how i feel about this whole thing....About being in a relatiuonship with a good friend...See if i could see you in my future in that type of a level.i would be a great bf, but she was not sure if she was ready to start a serious realtionship yet, and she needs some time to think..."

what can i say to this, she still wants to hang out all the time, but not sure about a relationship... is there anything i can say or do to help her decide... when we are togeather we have a great time and dont wantt he night to end... im just so confused because i would love to start a relationship with her, i really want to make it work, but i dont want her to feel pressured in to it...

 

[Mortukai]

Whatever you do, DO NOT CHASE HER. Simply act like you don't care one way or the other. It's HER loss, not yours. Start having fun with other people, do something you enjoy and pursue your passions. Get involved in sports or work or whatever. Plan nights with friends and maybe invite her along, but have heaps of fun anyway as if she wasn't even there. Let her see you being cool and in control of your life and completely unfazed about her place in it.

Then she might feel like she wants to be with you because you are so fun and "happening". But if she doesn't what do you care? You're out having fun and living and pursuing your passions and dreams.

But I'll just repeat this one bit: DO NOT CHASE HER. It will help if you also really do not care about whether or not she decides to be with you or not, beyond "Hey, you're kinda cool, I guess I'll let you hang out with me".

 

[Joe The Homophobe]

"i think that i need time to find how i feel about this whole thing....About being in a relatiuonship with a good friend...See if i could see you in my future in that type of a level.i would be a great bf, but she was not sure if she was ready to start a serious realtionship yet, and she needs some time to think..."

translation = she is not attracted to you.

funny how you can translate a paragraph of a females bs with 1 line

the solution to this is simple. Don't chase her, find someone else. What you really should do is to start reading the dj bible so you can learn how to become attractive to girls. Use the ****y + funny. After you learn the ways of the DJ and have the knowledge maybe after having gotten plenty of other gfs using DJ methods, then you can go back and work on this girl that refused you.

 

[DJStudent]

She might still see you just as a friend. I know you wanted it to work otherwise you wouldn't be posting here. The thing is that there's probably a lot of factor going in her mind. She might like someone else, she doesn't want to changer her friendship with you cause she's comfortable there, all kinds of different reason a girl might have. So to simply deal with this, is just tell her that you want this relationship and that she can say yes or no to it.

Hehe, I have the same problem with girls I got out with all the time. They want a relationship but I always back out. My main reason is that I don't want to be in a relationship because I go out with a lot of other girls and don't want to miss out on that oppertunity. I haven't yet met a girl that really mirrors me. So this might be what girls think when they get in situation like this. They might have other options as most girls do.