Relationship help

[Jay25]

So a girl who I’ve been seeing for 10 months recently last two months or so things haven’t gone so well, she’s pulled back and shown less attraction, and taking long periods to text back etc, I had been chasing after she did that and I’m realizing that did no good.

Now we hung out a lot of the weekend everything went well except on Sunday when we were going to have sex she said she wasn’t turned on but still got me off she was tired and had been dripping wet earlier so it made no sense, I didn’t make a big deal about it.

After that she messaged me but I ignored it it didn’t require a response, the next time I heard from her was two days later, I tried to escalate and I noticed she wasn’t into me saying kinky **** she wanted me to tell me I love her etc, the thing is she’s only calling me late at night when I know she’s home at least an hour or 2 earlier, I don’t want to pursue because when I did that she blew me off.

So she kind of rejected my advance it wasn’t a real advance it was just over text and I told her I was Horny and she told me she loves me.

Just Over the weekend it was rough sex and all, I don’t want to get too emotional and she backs off, idk how to handle all this

 

[Jay25]

I also am not asking her out this weekend or this week, she takes me for granted now, she used to always ask me, hasn’t in awhile.

How can I get her back chasing?

 

[Doctor Europeo]

Mmmmhhhh......

Some say that when a girl pulls back, you pull back further.

Others say that you have to hang out with hot girls, do something fun with them and make sure she finds out about it.

If the relationship falls apart then so be it.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

The only thing that caught my eye is the fact that she is asking you to tell her you love her in response to your talking about sex. 10 months is a long time - long enough that if you only talk about sex and she is looking for more (like love), and you are refusing to take things into that level, then she may decide it's time for her to move on to someone who wants something more serious. Again, I can't say for sure because I don't have enough information.

So where are you with her? Have you told her you love her ever? Is this in long-term-relationship territory or are you just friends with benefits or sexual partners? Have you had the relationship conversation? Did she initiate it or did you? Have you agreed to a definition of what the two of you are sharing together? I'm not saying you should or should not say one thing or another.... to each their own, I'm just trying to get more information so I can understand your situation with her in order to give advice.