Relationship Dilemna: Getting Attached to an Average Situation

[WORKEROUTER]

I've been dating this girl since November. We've been going steady since about February, in which I have only been having sex with her.

She's a pretty good girl, with lots of good qualities, but also things that I don't really care for (or just want better). For instance, she's good-looking, but not totally hot. She has plenty of sex with me, but has a lot of inhibitions I wish weren't there. She has a good personality, but is not totally in sync with mine.

In other words, she's a good girl overall, but she's not what I would consider the BEST. Lately, I've been wondering if there's any point to keep dating her steady like this.

I like her a lot, and have gotten attached to her. I would miss seeing her, even though I would be out sarging for better girls.

What are your thoughts here? Btw, I'm 19, and she's 21.

 

[GatorBait]

You're young, if you have these reservations and don't see yourself with this girl long-term then break it off. One of the biggest problems in relationships, in my opinion, is that people stay with a stale relationship because they haven't had a big fight or issue to break up over. Sometimes relationships just run their course and should be ended.

 

[RedPill]

I've been dating this girl since November. We've been going steady since about February, in which I have only been having sex with her.

She's a pretty good girl, with lots of good qualities, but also things that I don't really care for (or just want better). For instance, she's good-looking, but not totally hot. She has plenty of sex with me, but has a lot of inhibitions I wish weren't there. She has a good personality, but is not totally in sync with mine.

In other words, she's a good girl overall, but she's not what I would consider the BEST. Lately, I've been wondering if there's any point to keep dating her steady like this.

I like her a lot, and have gotten attached to her. I would miss seeing her, even though I would be out sarging for better girls.

What are your thoughts here? Btw, I'm 19, and she's 21.

Thanks for adding the red text. It makes your situation more obvious. Dude go find other chicks! You're way too young to go monogamous. Hell, at 25 I'm way too young to go monogamous. For your own sake, if she already views you two as being an exclusive item you're gonna have to break it off with her because you going after other girls will be perceived as "cheating," and you don't want the drama associated with that.

The lesson here for you (there's always a lesson) is to not frame your relationships in the future so that the woman thinks you are exclusive. Exclusivity without maturity is a recipe for disaster. Maturity means being a high-quality man or woman, knowing what you want, understanding the opposite sex, and knowing how to manage relationships. Nobody expects this out of you at your age, and you certainly shouldn't expect it out of women around your age. And for the record, when you do decide that you want an LTR at some point in your life, DEMAND that it be with a woman who fits your requirements - never settle for average.

 

[WORKEROUTER]

So should I just end it?


I don't think I can do that simply because we're so close now. I'm use to seeing her a lot, and I haven't even been going out trying to mack on other chicks for quite a while.

You could say I'm comfortable with her, and would feel pretty damn different if we suddently stopped seeing each other.

 

[RedPill]

So should I just end it?


I don't think I can do that simply because we're so close now. I'm use to seeing her a lot, and I haven't even been going out trying to mack on other chicks for quite a while.

You could say I'm comfortable with her, and would feel pretty damn different if we suddently stopped seeing each other.

Get some better options going, or as it's said around here spin some plates, then decide what you want to do.