Relationship analysis: 1 month

[Hellboy]

Okay, at my party, in the early hours of Saturday morning, me and my girl became officially a couple. That is, she is my girlfriend. This happened exactly one month after our first night together. Believe it or not this was was just a coincidence!
I guess I'm still infatuated with this girl. But that's okay: I'm pretty damed she she's infatuated too. Here's my take on the situation.

My perception of Her
Gorgeous, sexy, petite, incredibly stylish, femine
Creative, fun, ambitious, genius, very spiritual and cultured
Romantic, affectionate, caring, ladylike, generous
Mature outlook but childish behavior, girly
Confident, fascinating, good talker and listener, funny, flirtacious, complimentary
Sexually: confident, adventurous, high libido, submissive but takes initiative

I have had many failed relationships and a lot of fun. And learned a lot from this site and others. But most of all I really love being in a close relationship. I could tell at very early stages that this girl is a keeper.

So from what I have learned from this site over the last few years, I have become this to her:
Her perception of Me
Attractive, healthy, good style, masculine
Creative, fun, intelligent, adventurous, spontaneous, spiritual
Romantic, affectionate, caring, gentlemanly, generous
Mature outlook but childish behavior, boyish
Confident, interesting, good listener, GSOH, flirtacious, complimentary, ****y
Sexually: confident, adventurous, high libido, attentive, unpredictable, experienced, connected

Look at the similarities! I didn't even realise this until I started to write it. I would always look for a girl like this and should always strive to act like this.

It's not true love, but there unbelievable potential. It damned sure feels like love, but I'm trying to be sensible about it. Most of all I'm just trying to enjoy it in the present moment, and ignore my doubts, fears and insecurities. And most importantly, to be consistent with the qualities described above.

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

That is good. Do you think it is a little early to assume she is in love with you?

 

[Hellboy]

Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
That is good. Do you think it is a little early to assume she is in love with you?

Hey, did I say she was in love with me? :nono:

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

It damned sure feels like love,

Okay, it feels like love. That's sweet...:cheer: :flowers:

 

[spider_007]

OH GOD....

....and you'r 25????

 

[Hellboy]

Candy, you're not giving me much credibility here. What I said was: It's not true love, but there unbelievable potential. It damned sure feels like love".

Originally posted by spider_007
OH GOD....

....and you'r 25????

Meaning... what exactly?

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

:crackup:

 

[JackPrescott]

Originally posted by Hellboy
Okay, at my party, in the early hours of Saturday morning, me and my girl became officially a couple. That is, she is my girlfriend. This happened exactly one month after our first night together. Believe it or not this was was just a coincidence!
I guess I'm still infatuated with this girl. But that's okay: I'm pretty damed she she's infatuated too. Here's my take on the situation.

My perception of Her
Gorgeous, sexy, petite, incredibly stylish, femine
Creative, fun, ambitious, genius, very spiritual and cultured
Romantic, affectionate, caring, ladylike, generous
Mature outlook but childish behavior, girly
Confident, fascinating, good talker and listener, funny, flirtacious, complimentary
Sexually: confident, adventurous, high libido, submissive but takes initiative

I have had many failed relationships and a lot of fun. And learned a lot from this site and others. But most of all I really love being in a close relationship. I could tell at very early stages that this girl is a keeper.

So from what I have learned from this site over the last few years, I have become this to her:
Her perception of Me
Attractive, healthy, good style, masculine
Creative, fun, intelligent, adventurous, spontaneous, spiritual
Romantic, affectionate, caring, gentlemanly, generous
Mature outlook but childish behavior, boyish
Confident, interesting, good listener, GSOH, flirtacious, complimentary, ****y
Sexually: confident, adventurous, high libido, attentive, unpredictable, experienced, connected

Look at the similarities! I didn't even realise this until I started to write it. I would always look for a girl like this and should always strive to act like this.

It's not true love, but there unbelievable potential. It damned sure feels like love, but I'm trying to be sensible about it. Most of all I'm just trying to enjoy it in the present moment, and ignore my doubts, fears and insecurities. And most importantly, to be consistent with the qualities described above.

Why do you want this? Dont you want to keep on being a DJ and hitting on 25 women a day?

 

[xblitz44x]

"Her perception of Me
Attractive, healthy, good style, masculine
Creative, fun, intelligent, adventurous, spontaneous, spiritual
Romantic, affectionate, caring, gentlemanly, generous
Mature outlook but childish behavior, boyish
Confident, interesting, good listener, GSOH, flirtacious, complimentary, ****y
Sexually: confident, adventurous, high libido, attentive, unpredictable, experienced, connected"

You will never and can never know her perception of you. That's WHY it's her perception. That is YOUR perception of you.

Also, you have been together for one month. You don't know her well enough to know if she is any or all of those things. Your criteria is just a list of what you HOPE and assume she is based on nothing except the feeling she gives you when you're around her.

You need to be together much longer than a month to figure out who she really is. Don't let your illusions (you cal them perceptions) fool you.

PS: The love thing is silly right now. If anything, you've "fallen in love" with an idea. Be careful.

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

You need to be together much longer than a month to figure out who she really is. Don't let your illusions (you cal them perceptions) fool you.

Dating is basically a test. In the first month or two, everyone puts their best foot forward in order to pass.

A month is no time. You don't even know her. When she gets comfortable, she may be a totally different person. Take it slow.

 

[Hellboy]

Cheers SuperGigalo

Nope Jack, been there and lived the life. It isn't nearly as satisfying as a real connection with a special girl.

Good response xblitz.

You will never and can never know her perception of you. That's WHY it's her perception. That is YOUR perception of you.

That's very true, except that this isn't exactly my perception of me. But I know I have these qualities, I'm just trying to focus on them and avoid neuroses and AFC behavior. And so far I feel I have done this well.

Also, you have been together for one month. You don't know her well enough to know if she is any or all of those things. Your criteria is just a list of what you HOPE and assume she is based on nothing except the feeling she gives you when you're around her.

You need to be together much longer than a month to figure out who she really is. Don't let your illusions (you cal them perceptions) fool you.

Again, very true. And deep down I know this. I am taking this with a pinch of salt. It's a case of so far so good. I know I'm not in love here. But it does feel goooood

 

[Hellboy]

I just got this text from her:

My little shortbread, i got safely back to my dark dwelling place. My dreams are gonna be as pink as Orpheas! Hope yours will be as sweet as a double choc gateau! x

So puke, I don't care!

Oh yea, this is her

 

[mrmoe]

Haha! That's awesome. Very puke-worthy to say the least.