Relationship advice needed.

[thatfeel]

So I am 22(23 soon) and am involved with a 49 year old...yes I know huge age gap, whatever. I should probably mention that we have a strange relationship characterized by mutual love and strong attraction for one another. But it's not a gravy train type relationship that I would probably have with another person of my age.

I guess the advice I need is simple. Regarding two things. Is how can I get her to have sex with me? Often at times we have made it a little further each time I try to initiate something. But she seems so reserved because in the past she thought I only wanted casual sex but I reassured her that I wanted to develop something more meaningful with her. Her reservations are based around a few premises, for example "If I don't have sex then I can say we're not doing anything"(to people at work), and perhaps around the fact that I probably let too much info slip about my past promiscuity. I can arouse her and turn her on...remove the sheets on top of her and lift up her shirt and be extremely sensual but she'll keep pulling the sheets back over her...she says inviting things about my member when she feels it hard against her...and I slip my hands down into her panties and finger her. I've gotten a little further and have put a finger inside of her but s he gets so incredibly flustered and anxious that she just starts telling me to stop in a vindictive way while grabbing my wrist and saying "Okay, wait, wait, stop". I don't just give in the first time she says it of course, but there's only so much a girl can say "Stop" where it's going to get to the point that she's going to cry out something stupid like rape or think I'm only interested in sex. I do want to **** her but I'm willing to respect boundaries when she tells me to stop.

The other issue I want advice on is hanging out. I love spending time with her and hanging out with her. But how do I approach this? If I want to hang out with her should I just call her after work and ask her if she wants to hang out? The main thing I'm trying to not do is look needy while still being able to spend a lot of time with her. I want it to look like I want to spend time with her which I legitimately do.

Thanks!

 

[Bible_Belt]

Speaking of gravy train, grandma ought to be paying you to fvck her.

Assuming your post is real, you are choosing to pursue an impossible relationship, because it keeps you from failing at the realistic ones, which you have decided can only occur when you pay a girl to be with you.

It would be different if you were fvcking other women, or hell, even fvcking this old lady. But you obviously have a lot to learn about women, and you're not going to learn anything productive trying to game an old woman who has been gaming men for longer than you have been alive.

 

[GS750]

^This. She's playing you. Plain and simple.

 

[thatfeel]

I know you're looking for sex advice, but I'm gonna STRONGLY suggest that you think this through first...

When you're 32 she'll be 59...
When you're 42 she'll be 69.

This might be a "whatever" concern to you, but to her, it's probably MUCH more significant.

I don't know what's going through her mind...I'm not psychic...but she's
PROBABLY thinking these two things:

"I'm 49 and would LOVE to fvuck a 22-year-old, but I know there's no future in it, so I'm thinking he wants me just for sex, so I'll make him WORK for it."

"I'm 49 and he's 22. I'll be washed up soon--he'll lose physcial attraction for me. So I'm not sure I wanna get involved."

Watch out with the older women.

If you want sex, be upfront about it.

The likelihood of you staying involved with her as she ages is likely to wither each year. Even if she's exceptionally gorgeous for 49, she'll start to show her age.

And have you even thought about kids? Do you want them?

In my opinion, you're risking fvucking around with a woman's emotions...

Tread carefully.

Good advice. So basically, if I want to ****, what's the best way of getting it out of her as quickly as possible?

 

[LorenzoVonM]

Troll

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=207622

 

[thatfeel]

**** i'm not trolling, jesus.

 

[Cremasta]

So I am 22(23 soon) and am involved with a 49 year old...

Fact is that women's sexual peak is when they hit 30.
Hers was 20 years ago.
When you still had nappies on.

There's no future here, either for sex or a relationship. Actually, there is, but for you it's all bad.

 

[Thatfeel21]

Dude...OP....why is your sosuave name so similar to mines?

 

[thatfeel]

Fact is that women's sexual peak is when they hit 30.
Hers was 20 years ago.
When you still had nappies on.

There's no future here, either for sex or a relationship. Actually, there is, but for you it's all bad.

what would i have to do to make both of these a future? be 45+~ years old?

 

[thatfeel]

Dude...OP....why is your sosuave name so similar to mines?

cause bro i am become that feel

 

[pyros]

FOR GOD'S SAKE! SHE'S 50! 50!
and of course she's not Demi Moore, so she's just and old lady....brrbbbbbb... Im gonna throw up.
She just does not want you to see her naked body, thats all, because she knows if you see it, you're not gonna like what you see.

You fingered her? great! I mean, aGGGGGGGG so disgusting!

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