"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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We cannot gauge where we are now, if we have no idea where we were. Lost in a sea of confusion, Polaris stares at us ominously. Bewildered by its sparkle we follow it: and by noon tomorrow: we’re home.

Where are we now? Where were we then? Under a translucent guise of insecurity, covered under an opaque veil of arrogance- we’re unidentifiable. The transitions we make unknowable- our accomplishments cannot be congratulated. The more important our fight becomes: the smaller the reward. It seems contradictory. It is the conundrum of our lives, and there is simply nothing we can do about it.

Progressively, we become weaker as we become stronger. This paradox is what defines the lives of the strong. Seemingly fearless: we show-up. When everyone else stays home and calls it quits, with dignity… we cry in despair, spend 20 minutes putting our shoes on and we show-up. The stronger we are, the weaker we seem—the more translucent our skin.

Eventually the goals become irrelevant: they’re not there for the reasons they were before. We wanted to improve ourselves, take it to the next level: find something. Now, it’s a matter of life or death. Complacency is suicide. Tremendous pressures on our backs screaming so violently “DON’T GIVEUP!” You can’t. You’re too strong now, you won’t give-up. This just means more pressure. Eventually: we collapse.

Why do we face the day? Why do we fight? What more is there to win? Is there anything at all?

A pain dwells deep inside of our bodies and we want to quit. We don’t know why the **** we push on anymore. We should get rid of the pain. It’s all futile anyway.

It’s quite simple, really. It’s in the back of your head. You’re killing it. You don’t even think you believe it in anymore.

Love.

What a joke… what an illusion. What a hallmark holiday. Thank you February 14th. Thank you all.

Love of yourself. That’s it. That’s the whole ****ing show. That’s it gentlemen. There is not a damn more to it. You can run around in your circles all day, trying to get laid, which hey—I don’t even look down upon. Bravo, golf clap, good job. It’s no more important than the bull**** life I’m leading, but it’s certainly no less!

Just love yourself. Whatever that means—and I realize how damn simple and obvious that is. If everyone just loved themselves, holy ****…

So, that’s it. Love yourself. I’m not even going to go into it. There’s no reason to. It’s why we fight, it’s why we die, and it’s why we endure the pain. We do it because we love ourselves, and we know what’s best. No one else does. So **** them.

Next time you want to quit, ask yourself: “Do I love me?”

You’ll work until you’re ****ing crying if you do. Remember: any negative thing can be a positive thing if it forces you to better yourself.

In the name of love. Self-love.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What a joke… what an illusion. What a hallmark holiday. Thank you February 14th. Thank you all.
Hey Valentines Day isn't so bad....now I could just be saying that because the 14th is my birthday. :D (I will accept credit card numbers and blank checks for presents)

Good stuff man...seems like we think a like to some degree I wrote a post similar to this.
 

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You have inspired me.
 

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That is an amazing post.

Do you guys believe in love? I dont believe in "one true love" - but I believe I could one day have the same devotion I have for my family, for a woman I am uncontrollably attracted to. And I think it would be really amazing for her to love me back.

The collective thoughts of the forum?
 

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Great post Smooth, stick around.

Originally posted by TonyTheTigerOI
That is an amazing post.

Do you guys believe in love? I dont believe in "one true love" - but I believe I could one day have the same devotion I have for my family, for a woman I am uncontrollably attracted to. And I think it would be really amazing for her to love me back.

The collective thoughts of the forum?
At the moment i don't believe in love for another person, because i've never experienced anything like it. I believed i did on a couple of occasions in my younger days, but after hearing this i knew that was all bull ****: False love is when you love someone because you need them, real love is when you need someone because you love them.

Think about that.

On a side note, i think 'love' (if its a REAL emotion) has been hyped up WAY to much by movies and the like, people expect to much from a simple emotion. Maybe we have all felt it yet its not what we where expecting.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Not hyped up enough, in my opinion. They did what they could really. I am here to vouch for a certain 'love' existing.

The day you take all your defenses and no longer use them to shield yourself but to shield another person. Or any other definition.
 

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