Well first of all, this site is awesome....but heres where i want some advice from you guys....i'ma freshman in high school and theres not alot of chicks that i think are hot at my school and the ones who are are allready taken and i dont want to lower my expectations of what i want....so i was thinking i know some chicks that go to another school that are hot and are single...theres two in particular...and i dunno which one i would get farther with....k, well theres one that i asked out and she said no(around may)...and i started talking talking to her again....but theres this other girl who i used to be pretty good friends with and shes hot too...so my question is..which chick should i ask to a date or something....which one would i probably get farther with?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
hmmm...
1st thing you need to know is that you must NOT be dissencouridged by the fct that the 1 girl said no to you. ( By the way... why did she say no? could you please elaborate)
Otherwise in the overall picture what i think that you should do is become realy friendly with both of them and then flirt with both of them... Now generally you should be able to TELL if a girl is interested in you by the time u get really friednly with her, and the girl that you get better "vibes" "signals" "connection" "click" wateva u want to call it, then you should go for that one.
One thing that you need to make sure of though... and thats to make sure that you let the girl that "rejected" you know that all you want is her friendship, so she musnt think that you got other motives.... Now by doing this she will let her guard down and be able to be more open and comfortable with you. Then slowly you need to start going to lunch with her (as friends) and slowly slowly make her fall for you.... and if she doesnt, then move on, its HER loss, NOT YOURS, there are PLENTY other girls out there for the picking.
And with this other girl that u say that u USE to be friendly with... what happened? are u not friendly with her anymore? whats your friendship like with her at this point?
If you ARE still friendly with her then give her a call and make arrangements with her and do the same as you did with the 1st girl, just that u dont have to mention that u JUST wnana be friends, because thats a given in the friendship that u already have.
And another good idea is to meet OTHER girls (their friends) at the same time... So when u make an arrangement with one of them, then tell them to bring a friend or 2 along along, and u do the same... and then u can eventually get their friends numbers (cellpgone numbers) and widen your selection of women.
Well... thats what i would suggest you do about your current situation...
Goodluck
Laterz...
1st thing you need to know is that you must NOT be dissencouridged by the fct that the 1 girl said no to you. ( By the way... why did she say no? could you please elaborate)
Otherwise in the overall picture what i think that you should do is become realy friendly with both of them and then flirt with both of them... Now generally you should be able to TELL if a girl is interested in you by the time u get really friednly with her, and the girl that you get better "vibes" "signals" "connection" "click" wateva u want to call it, then you should go for that one.
One thing that you need to make sure of though... and thats to make sure that you let the girl that "rejected" you know that all you want is her friendship, so she musnt think that you got other motives.... Now by doing this she will let her guard down and be able to be more open and comfortable with you. Then slowly you need to start going to lunch with her (as friends) and slowly slowly make her fall for you.... and if she doesnt, then move on, its HER loss, NOT YOURS, there are PLENTY other girls out there for the picking.
And with this other girl that u say that u USE to be friendly with... what happened? are u not friendly with her anymore? whats your friendship like with her at this point?
If you ARE still friendly with her then give her a call and make arrangements with her and do the same as you did with the 1st girl, just that u dont have to mention that u JUST wnana be friends, because thats a given in the friendship that u already have.
And another good idea is to meet OTHER girls (their friends) at the same time... So when u make an arrangement with one of them, then tell them to bring a friend or 2 along along, and u do the same... and then u can eventually get their friends numbers (cellpgone numbers) and widen your selection of women.
Well... thats what i would suggest you do about your current situation...
Goodluck
Laterz...
well the chick that said no to me...heres the story....we were friends ...when i met her we just clicked, everything fell into place...i flirted with her , she flirted back, you could just feel that sexual tension...so as i spend more time i liked her more...so i asked her out like the day after we got out of school{this is all before i found this site and all its wisdom unfortunately }...so i asked her out and it was awkward cause i was gonna chicken out but my friend dragged me to ask her out so i panicked and asked her out awkwardly and she didn't even tell me she said no...she got her friend to do it...and her friend told me that she said that she saw me as a brother adn not like that and that she was flattered and all this stuff but no....but i started talking to her cause i didn't talk to her for a while........and thats what leads me to what i asked
}...so i asked her out and it was awkward cause i was gonna chicken out but my friend dragged me to ask her out so i panicked and asked her out awkwardly and she didn't even tell me she said no...she got her friend to do it...and her friend told me that she said that she saw me as a brother adn not like that and that she was flattered and all this stuff but no....but i started talking to her cause i didn't talk to her for a while........and thats what leads me to what i askedoh well...
Accept that she only wants to be friends, and move on... If she wants something to happen in the future, she will let u know.... but for now just accept that she has to offer (her friendship ) and move on. Its HER loss, not urs. There are plenty of other attractive girls out there, so dont get let down by this...
Laterz...
Accept that she only wants to be friends, and move on... If she wants something to happen in the future, she will let u know.... but for now just accept that she has to offer (her friendship ) and move on. Its HER loss, not urs. There are plenty of other attractive girls out there, so dont get let down by this...
Laterz...
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.