Well first of all, this site is awesome....but heres where i want some advice from you guys....i'ma freshman in high school and theres not alot of chicks that i think are hot at my school and the ones who are are allready taken and i dont want to lower my expectations of what i want....so i was thinking i know some chicks that go to another school that are hot and are single...theres two in particular...and i dunno which one i would get farther with....k, well theres one that i asked out and she said no(around may)...and i started talking talking to her again....but theres this other girl who i used to be pretty good friends with and shes hot too...so my question is..which chick should i ask to a date or something....which one would i probably get farther with?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
hmmm...
1st thing you need to know is that you must NOT be dissencouridged by the fct that the 1 girl said no to you. ( By the way... why did she say no? could you please elaborate)
Otherwise in the overall picture what i think that you should do is become realy friendly with both of them and then flirt with both of them... Now generally you should be able to TELL if a girl is interested in you by the time u get really friednly with her, and the girl that you get better "vibes" "signals" "connection" "click" wateva u want to call it, then you should go for that one.
One thing that you need to make sure of though... and thats to make sure that you let the girl that "rejected" you know that all you want is her friendship, so she musnt think that you got other motives.... Now by doing this she will let her guard down and be able to be more open and comfortable with you. Then slowly you need to start going to lunch with her (as friends) and slowly slowly make her fall for you.... and if she doesnt, then move on, its HER loss, NOT YOURS, there are PLENTY other girls out there for the picking.
And with this other girl that u say that u USE to be friendly with... what happened? are u not friendly with her anymore? whats your friendship like with her at this point?
If you ARE still friendly with her then give her a call and make arrangements with her and do the same as you did with the 1st girl, just that u dont have to mention that u JUST wnana be friends, because thats a given in the friendship that u already have.
And another good idea is to meet OTHER girls (their friends) at the same time... So when u make an arrangement with one of them, then tell them to bring a friend or 2 along along, and u do the same... and then u can eventually get their friends numbers (cellpgone numbers) and widen your selection of women.
Well... thats what i would suggest you do about your current situation...
Goodluck
Laterz...
1st thing you need to know is that you must NOT be dissencouridged by the fct that the 1 girl said no to you. ( By the way... why did she say no? could you please elaborate)
Otherwise in the overall picture what i think that you should do is become realy friendly with both of them and then flirt with both of them... Now generally you should be able to TELL if a girl is interested in you by the time u get really friednly with her, and the girl that you get better "vibes" "signals" "connection" "click" wateva u want to call it, then you should go for that one.
One thing that you need to make sure of though... and thats to make sure that you let the girl that "rejected" you know that all you want is her friendship, so she musnt think that you got other motives.... Now by doing this she will let her guard down and be able to be more open and comfortable with you. Then slowly you need to start going to lunch with her (as friends) and slowly slowly make her fall for you.... and if she doesnt, then move on, its HER loss, NOT YOURS, there are PLENTY other girls out there for the picking.
And with this other girl that u say that u USE to be friendly with... what happened? are u not friendly with her anymore? whats your friendship like with her at this point?
If you ARE still friendly with her then give her a call and make arrangements with her and do the same as you did with the 1st girl, just that u dont have to mention that u JUST wnana be friends, because thats a given in the friendship that u already have.
And another good idea is to meet OTHER girls (their friends) at the same time... So when u make an arrangement with one of them, then tell them to bring a friend or 2 along along, and u do the same... and then u can eventually get their friends numbers (cellpgone numbers) and widen your selection of women.
Well... thats what i would suggest you do about your current situation...
Goodluck
Laterz...
well the chick that said no to me...heres the story....we were friends ...when i met her we just clicked, everything fell into place...i flirted with her , she flirted back, you could just feel that sexual tension...so as i spend more time i liked her more...so i asked her out like the day after we got out of school{this is all before i found this site and all its wisdom unfortunately }...so i asked her out and it was awkward cause i was gonna chicken out but my friend dragged me to ask her out so i panicked and asked her out awkwardly and she didn't even tell me she said no...she got her friend to do it...and her friend told me that she said that she saw me as a brother adn not like that and that she was flattered and all this stuff but no....but i started talking to her cause i didn't talk to her for a while........and thats what leads me to what i asked
}...so i asked her out and it was awkward cause i was gonna chicken out but my friend dragged me to ask her out so i panicked and asked her out awkwardly and she didn't even tell me she said no...she got her friend to do it...and her friend told me that she said that she saw me as a brother adn not like that and that she was flattered and all this stuff but no....but i started talking to her cause i didn't talk to her for a while........and thats what leads me to what i askedoh well...
Accept that she only wants to be friends, and move on... If she wants something to happen in the future, she will let u know.... but for now just accept that she has to offer (her friendship ) and move on. Its HER loss, not urs. There are plenty of other attractive girls out there, so dont get let down by this...
Laterz...
Accept that she only wants to be friends, and move on... If she wants something to happen in the future, she will let u know.... but for now just accept that she has to offer (her friendship ) and move on. Its HER loss, not urs. There are plenty of other attractive girls out there, so dont get let down by this...
Laterz...
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.