Rejection

[Mr Spitfire]

I hate to rewrite "the Bible" because Im sure it is divinely inspired but I don't understand this whole concept of rejection.

I am reading this DJ bootcamp chronicle and week 4 is "lets get rejected." It just doesn't seem very don juan to me.

I don't get rejected. I have never been rejected in my whole life. I go after what I want without fear of rejection because rejection is not in my vocabulary. I don't know why that hot chick didn't want to come over to my place for sex tonight. I probably should have massaged her a little more in our conversation first. The next hot one that likes will be warmer hornier than that ice witch.

Could it have something to do with me? Was I rejected? Hell no she wanted me to **** her in the ass. I just dropped her pass. She'll just wait for another guy who is as good as I am to come along and take it to the endzone with out dropping the ball so he can do his touchdown dance.

This guy I worked with said he saw this girl I had been seeing and I said "Oh her, screw her I don't talk to her anymore."

--him "Thats because she rejected you."

I was stunned. "What a fvcking loser," I thought to myself. I would never have thought of it like that. If for no other reason that it isn't true.

 

[Egoist]

DUDE!

i know exactly what you mean. I just never think about rejection. I DON'T GET REJECTED! well not in my mind at least.

how weird is that?

i guess its the over-confident ****y thing..

 

[johnmich]

I think it is to get poeple used to rejection so they are not fazed by it.

Altho you are not, others fearrejection so its for them not for you.

 

[RBB]

Yeah, I was thinking what was running thru MOTU's mind when he prepared week 4's exercises. But here's 2 ways you can view it;

1) Get 10 rejections on purpose to see how good it is to go for the numbers.

~Tasting the negativity of failing on purpose so it gives you the drive to perfect/improve your game. I guess it is making you see which side's grass is greener.
-Crash and burn-


2) On the way to getting 10 rejections you would obtain a few numbers.

~Test your game and approach HB9/9.9s. See the limitation of your skills and improve accordingly.
-Trial and error-

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Either way, the week's exercises are designed to give you a thicker skin in the real world. And not the tv show. So that you know what it is like to be rejected. A lot of men aren't born naturals now.

If you know what you're doing, ie: have enough of a skillset to raise interest levels, look for IOIs and close the deal. Then you will have a low 'rejection' rate. If you simply don't close challenging women, you will also have a low 'rejection' rate.

 

[RaWBLooD]

great post, its exactly why this simply reading here can actually make you get further from the goal wich you came here to get help with.

 

[Swoop]

I'm suprised none of you get the essense of week 4. It's basically about getting #'s but without the pressure to succeed. It's like a win win situation for your training. It serves to eliminate your fear of rejection as well as build your confidence if you do succeed in getting #s and if not, you fulfill your goal to get rejection. A positive way to approach. A step necessary to built you up for success. You must learn to fall before you can learn to walk. That's the goal of week 4.

 

[JaguarMike]

Yeah i'm on the same page with most of you. I run control so tight that I never feel rejected, just that she couldn't handle me lol. But like that guy that said "oh yeah that's because she rejected you" is a loser, he just is hating because he sucks at life... oh the pity!! lol, whatever.

My biggest problem is not if I get rejected, it is how do I do this the best way for optimum result... kind of the problem of knowing so much technique. I don't care if the girl says no, but i'll be upset if I know she would have said yes if I would have tweaked my approach. Kind of a perfectionist you could say.

 

[Rec_rejection_phobic]

denial / rejction shield.