Rejection???

[krk]

Hey.
I have recently been seeing this girl and have met up together a few times. Last sat nite we went to a party and enjoied the night together (not sexually) and seemed to get on well. The following day (sunday) she text me to say she enjoied herself and would like to hangout with me again. I went to her work on monday and talked for a short while while she closed. I went to hug her to say bye and she seemed very put off, yet we did hug (the hug was just friendly i thought). The next day (tues) we arranged 2 meet up with a few friends but at the arranged time she text me to say her friend forgot her ID (was a uni pub) so couldn't get in and were going 2 do assignments instead. So i phoned her to ask if they'd like to meet up and just go somewhere else but they said they had to do the assignment. Then today (wed) i text her and ask casually if they got their assignment done in time and if she would like 2 hangout sometime. later i got a message saying that they managed to do there assignment just in time but missed some lecture that she'd now how 2 catch up on, blah, blah, blah. She also then said 'i'm pretty busy everyday 4 the rest of the week'.
Is this her rejecting me or genuine? I can't she why she would have gone from really likeing me to the opposite in a day?
Thanks for your comments and sorry about the long post.

 

[SickAgain]

Well, I'm surprised you can't see it, but there seems to be an excuse for every reason you provide to hang out. I mean how many times are you getting get blown off for sh!tty excuses. ID? Who the fvck doesn't carry ID? And even if she didn't have her ID, I think she'd do a counter-offer if she was genuine. I wouldn't call it a rejection, but it is definitely low interest. I wouldn't pursue or another 2 weeks or at all.

 

[Mavrick]

Why are you bugging her everyday? You killed it with your desperation. She lost interest when she saw that you had more interest than you. If you would have let things move along without forcing them, she probably would have been pursuing you.

You need to look at yourself and the way you acted for the answers.

 

[guru1000]

I went to her work on monday and talked for a short while while she closed.
I went to hug her to say bye and she seemed very put off, yet we did hug (the hug was just friendly i thought).

Strike 1

If she was put off, give her space. Do not pursue.

The next day (tues) we arranged 2 meet up with a few friends

Strike 2

This is not space. You are NEXTed at this point.

but at the arranged time she text me to say her friend forgot her ID (was a uni pub) so couldn't get in and were going 2 do assignments instead.

What a surprise.

So i phoned her to ask if they'd like to meet up and just go somewhere else but they said they had to do the assignment.

Add insult to injury.

Then today (wed) i text her and ask casually if they got their assignment done in time and if she would like 2 hangout sometime.

Desperado, im turned off now.

later i got a message saying that they managed to do there assignment just in time but missed some lecture that she'd now how 2 catch up on, blah, blah, blah. She also then said 'i'm pretty busy everyday 4 the rest of the week'.

Hmmm, at least she was nice about it.

 

[krk]

aight i'm the same person who originally posted this. I didn't bother responding to her last message about being busy so then later that nite she text me 2 say she wants 2 meet up and actually she sugested a time we could do so if i was free.
Is this just because she wants 2 meet up or just plain sympathy? Because i am semi turned off her for other reasons and now dont feel compeled to chase. Shall i say i'm busy at that time 2 not look desperate or what???

 

[Social Calibration]

I'd tell her I'm busy and she's going to have to find some other time. All those times she put you off? Pfffft, tell her you'd rather play xbox or something now lol

 

[MotownMack]

Girls are selfish creatures when it comes to protecting and cultivating their own emotions- that said, I do not think she would meet you out of sympathy if she didn't want to spend time with you-but whether it's the kind of attention YOU want from her, is the debatable aspect.

Having said that, it doesn't mean she is terribly attracted to you, either. You keep saying you were setting things up "just as friends", which is fine, if you're going to use that time to try to get her attracted to you. But it sounds like her IL isn't the highest either.

Anyway, I would blow her off this round. Or if you really want to be mess with her a little (sounds like she doesn't have a problem doing it to you), I'd make tentative plans, then cancel. Whatever the case, I think it's pretty critical at this point that you make it clear that you have a life and have better things to do than just wait around for her to decide she wants to do something.