"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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rejection...then changes mind?

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Something I'm curious about, hasnt happened to me.

Let's say you ask a woman out and get rejected. Low IL, etc.

But then a few months or a year or so later the woman asks you out? What do you do? Go out with her? Or treat her with the same heartless behavior with which she treated you?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Think about giving her a chance if you still have feelings for her. What's one date after all?
 

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Re: You're in a great position

Originally posted by swampwiz

You never know the reason why she rejected you. She may have had a b/f. She really may have been busy at that time. She may have been recovering from an illness.
She might not have been able to get a date with any of the guys around her that she IS interested in and wants a throw-away for the Valentine's season. :p

If you've got the time and you feel like seeing her, go for it. Just don't get too excited just yet. :)
 

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Sure I'd go, I've got a few things going on but I'd find some time to go out with a chick even though she changed her mind.

Women are very fickle creatures so expect them to flip flop on a lot of issues.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Good friend of mine called up a guy she liked and enver called in the past 8 months and fuc-ked his brains out on the first date. She always thought he was hot but didn't do anything because she was in relationship.
 

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Most likely she was in a relationship before and now is free to pursue.
 

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If a girl I dated for a month dumped me, and she called me 2-3 months later all sounding happy and stuff trying to get me to setup a date or she asks me out. I would go, yep.. but wouldn't plan on dating her unless she made all the moves, paid for date, etc. Remember, the dumper is the one supposed to do the crawling NEVER you.
 
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