Rejection: LETS JUST BE FRIENDS!

[FoxHound20]

So this chick and I met through school a few months ago. We went out twice and have seen/hung out with eachother every day at school. I applied ****y funny, TONS of kino and even acted like I didn't need her, but where did I end up? In the friends zone tonight. Here's what happened.

I get to this party and she's already drinking it up. I'm the center of her attention and she starts joking along with me and touching me/tickling me. So whatever, i'm cool about it and accept the attention and poke and tease her back. We then are sitting on a couch together and she's pressed up against me with her body. So i'm like "ok cool, lets start hitting up the kino", and I start to apply some kino, rubbing her leg jokingly and tickling her.. we lock eyes and stare at eachother for a couple of seconds. (her pupils are dilated and everything)..........................................................then all of a sudden out of no where I get this reponse.

"Friends.. remember? Friends." I laugh at this and get up and leave. She follows me into the kitchen and tries to get my attention back, but I start talking to another female.

This LJBF comment didn't affect me to much, but it's left me truly puzzled. She confided in me that she finds me attractive and is always touching/looking into my eyes with a smile, however now i'm left in the friends zone. This chick has left me dumbfounded, so now i'm going to walk away.

I figure i'd share this rejection with you guys.

 

[Cremasta]

Foxhound,

You were well and truly NOT in the friendzone... I think you missed a prime opportunity there and based on what you are saying I don't believe, even now, you are in the friendzone.

Next time she says "Friends... remember?" just go "Yeah right!" (with a smile) and make a move.
With the feedback you say you are getting from her, I'd assume that she is pretty interested.

 

[bonjove]

Remember that husbands and wives are also friends as well as lovers and people who have no interest sexually in one another, so if a woman ever gives you the lets just be friends line tell her that you've always been friends.

By the way I agree fully with the previous poster. When a woman says that she is your friend she is saying in ******** that she wants a closer relationship with you; not that she JUST wants to be friends like you assumed. Go by the way girls interact with you emotionally and not by what they say.

For example she was tickling you and looking you in the eyes. That doesn't sound to me like she wants to just be friends with you. You completely and utterly mistranslated what her body language was really saying. She even followed you after you took off how blatent is that?

She is hopefully still interested in you take it as a learning experience.....

 

[violator]

The problem here is that you are taking what she says literally without observing the contradiction in her actions.

Remember, it is not what she says but shat she does that is important. Here she was giving you all the signs that she is interested.

Women often give you the LJBF line as a form of ASD (Anti Slut Defense) because they don't want to appear too easy.

Forget about what comes out of her mouth and just observe her actions to guage her interest.

 

[becker]

This thread is a good example.

I've never heard "let's just be friends" from a girl, except when I dumped my ex-GF and she tried to stay in contact with me (we never did because I just cut her out of my life completely).

Anyways, the best point made here, twice above, was that a girl's actions definitely will speak louder than her words. It's just that it's difficult to read a girl's actions, because all of them are flirty to some extent, unless you're just butt-ugly.