"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Rejection! how to give her the finisher she deserves?!

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just smile and let it go and tell her it was a pleasure talking to her. Dont let your ego tear at you because you didnt close a sale. There are other customers if you know what I mean.

Now if she is a total ***** then you can just dis her. Like this girl I was talking to weeks ago was the total ***** of all *****es and I looked her dead in the eye and said Im glad I see what a ***** you are now, I wouldnt go out with you if paid me and by the way your breath stinks! And I walked away and her face just looked like someone ripped her soul out.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Hahahha w/e your opinion is, it don't really matter. I always have 1 ****y funny line ready in the back of my head incase a situation arrises. Its quite simple actually.

Her: im not intrested
Me: Perhaps you should lower your standards a bit, I lower'd mine.

then walk away, whats done is done, move on! atho there isnt really a need for the line if you think about it, your walking away anyway... i guess it's just a little game of " who gets the last shot in ". lol !
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If you dont give the pvssy shiit just because it turned you down it might come back around.

Giving the pvssy a hard time though for something so trivial will not stick well in the pvssy's memory.
 

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Originally posted by qweretyuiopas
These are 2 people who did NOT read the post, it wasnt just him being rejected it was how he was rejected, he was saying it like the girl insults him and thinks she is better. I would just walk away myself, but you 2 are way off on the point of the question.
Firstly I dont reply to posts unless I first read them...but gee thanks for telling me what I did and didnt do, now his post said

me: so, ok, let us continue our dialog on weekend, we should meet, give me your number and we can make up a meeting.

she: no, thanks

me: too shy?

she: not interessted!


Explain to me how she insulted him here, her response......"not interessted" (with an extra s ) that is not insulting that is truthful, if he has issues with some HB telling him the truth then maybe he shouldnt be trying to pick up. "If she replied by saying get the fu(k away from me you little germ" then I would agree she is a bytch, but saying "not interested" is not in any way shape or form insulting, infact to take it one step further, he tried to be ****y towards her when she said no the first time (which I might add was quite polite) then she retorted and owned him, he got huffy cause he was owned.....once again deal with it. While I am on a rant....if as you say the girl thinks she is better then him that is his own fault also, he has not demonstrated enough value or social proof....therefore her thinking she is better in her mind is probably justified. Once again deal with it and walk away.
 

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@ dr box: you see, what I mean is, that her VOICE TONE and her WAY OF LOOKIN AT ME, implied that she was extremley arrogant, this is what strikes me here, and she is not the only girl that acted this way. I mean it is okay, if she rejects you, thats her business,but acting like you have not deserved speaking to her, is simply bytchy

@ ALL
ANOTHER EXAMPLE:

I was out one night with a friend of mine, in front of us, there was a pretty hot blonde, so he wanted to aproach her and he did it.

HIM: hey, excuse me..?

she just continued her way, didn't even stop, to listen to what he wanted from her, I mean it could have been, that he had a simple question (for example what time is it?), but she just ignored him.

do you understand what I mean?

A lot of girls from approx.17-24 act bytchy and like a "royal-holy-queen"

a lot of my buddies experienced this.

PS: I am from germany
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by Mr.Speed
[Bher VOICE TONE and her WAY OF LOOKIN AT ME, implied that she was extremley arrogant, [/B]
Then all the more reason to shrug it off.

She was being arrogant to get a reaction out of you, to try to come across as superior and to make you 'feel' something.

But by simply saying 'ok' and walking away gives her nothing at all back and no output for her bitterness.
 

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HIM: hey, excuse me..?

she just continued her way, didn't even stop, to listen to what he wanted from her,


NO WAY! You mean after the 38th guy of the day coming up to her just because she is really hot without her giving any indication she wanted to be bothered? I cant believe it.

If 50 homeless irritating beggers start trying make conversation with you everday and at some point ask you for 5$ how eager are you going to be to even acknowledge them.

Some of you guys think you are entitled to hot babes. THEY DONT OWE YOU ANYTHING.
 

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Originally posted by Mr Spitfire
HIM: hey, excuse me..?

she just continued her way, didn't even stop, to listen to what he wanted from her,


NO WAY! You mean after the 38th guy of the day coming up to her just because she is really hot without her giving any indication she wanted to be bothered? I cant believe it.

If 50 homeless irritating beggers start trying make conversation with you everday and at some point ask you for 5$ how eager are you going to be to even acknowledge them.

Some of you guys think you are entitled to hot babes. THEY DONT OWE YOU ANYTHING.
Holy crap! Take the pvssy off the pedastal!!!! They eat, they sleep, they fart! They are just humans. They are not divine beings. You are not BOTHERING a girl by approaching her. You're just doing what you're supposed to be doing. they like..... no they LOVE to be approached

My goodness...... I can't believe with all these articles people still think like this.
 

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Originally posted by DJ_in_making
Holy crap! Take the pvssy off the pedastal!!!! They eat, they sleep, they fart! They are just humans. They are not divine beings. You are not BOTHERING a girl by approaching her. You're just doing what you're supposed to be doing. they like..... no they LOVE to be approached

My goodness...... I can't believe with all these articles people still think like this.
you don't ****ing get it.

don't insult a girl because she rejected you.

shrug it off, walk away.



to me the first sign of insecurity and being a virgin loser is when guys say something mean after being rejected.

unless a girl said something really bad to you, shrug it off...

i usually do **** like "i like you, you're cool" and turn around and walk away.
 

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The pvssy doenst owe you anything. That is a fact. If you want to believe you can't possibly be bothering a girl by trying to get her attention then just rape her and say hey biitch girls like sex. It even said so on this website that I devote my entire brain to about women.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by Mr Spitfire
DJ_wannabe_in_themaking

The pvssy doenst owe you anything. That is a fact. If you want to believe you can't possibly be bothering a girl by trying to get her attention then just rape her and say hey biitch girls like sex. It even said so on this website that I devote my entire brain to about women.
what?????
 

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Originally posted by DJ_in_making
what?????
You are saying I am putting the pvssy on a pedestal because xyz hb10 blows off guy or ignores him without being sensitive to his feelings.

I made the point so what? She doesn't owe you anything. You don't have to add fuel to her fire by insulting her. You were the one that bothered her. Get over it. Its not like she kicked him in the balls.
 

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The bottom line is that when you approach a girl you have no idea what her mind frame is. She might be married with three kids and doesn't want to be bothered.

I like the analogy one guy used about if 50 homeless people come up to you every day how annoying it would be.

Stop letting your fragile ego get in the way. MAN UP and move on to the next chick. I used to be same way.... always thinking about the girls that dissed me rather than focusing on the ones that like me. If I was in a club there might be 5 girls giving me the eye but I would always go for that *****y hottie on the dance floor thats rejecting everyone. I guess people just always want what they can't have.

You'll save yourself alot of time and energy if you could learn to just walk away and not give it another thought.

Plus you'd be surprised how many girls will reject you the first time but will give you a chance at another time. Maybe she just doesn't want to seem too easy. Or maybe she's just testing your confidence. If you get all huffy pufffy about it she'll see right away that you can't handle a girl like her. Show her your strength and confidence and just walk away.

Don't forget, you have to give the impression that you have like 8 girls fighting for you and you're just picking and choosing who you want to be with. You don't want to give the impression that you're frustated cause you haven't gotten laid in 4 months lol.
 

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Hey Check This...

I got rejected Today.. this was a Gurl @ Work who is our Human Resource for all the Employees... and was also the one responsible for recruiting me and employing me in the company.. etc...

Hence i'm still on my probation.. so i will still have to c her very soon.. But before i asked her out.. i saw her a couple weeks ago n gave her a flower.. i know it's supplicating.. but it was such a great idea..

Me: Hey can i c HR Gurl pls
Receptionist(HB7.5): Call her on fone n she comes down(While waiting i chat up the Receptionist.. she becomes very warm n friendly) She finally then comes down
Me: Hi...
Her(HB8.5):What's the matter? What's wrong??
Me: Nothing's wrong i just like seeing U.. (Me Smile)
Me: Well i was just on my way to work.. n i saw this thing that reminded me off U so yeh
Her: (Curioues Look)
Me: Pullz out a flower.. n gives it to her
Her: Oh Sesar (Tone of u shouldn't have)

She walks away n goes upstairs... even before i got chance to ask her out...

I walk off.. n walk pass the receptionist who saw the whole thing.. n she smiles @ me... i smile back n couldn't stop smiling for rest of day..

Ne ways.. tried couple of other days seeing her.. through receptionist.. blah blah.. just leavin msg.. cuz she was busy

Ne ways cut story short..

I got a chance to ask her out..

Me: Hey what are u doing here(Being Playfull n Friendly)
Her: Err.. I work here...
Me: Hey listen Let's go out Sometime
Her: Ummm No
Me: Why Not???
Her: I have a BF.. plus I"m almost 30 (Hence i'm only 22)
Me: Wow almost 30...
Her: (Trying to do her work.. n ignoring me)

Slight Pause..

Me: Ok Well i just wanted to say it Cuz i Had Courage to Do it.. n I wanted to c Ur Reaction.

At that moment i gave her full Eye contact.. until she replied it back.. cuz i was being serious now.. Held it for @ least 4-5 Sec

I smile.. then said..
Me: Well u have a good day ok..(Kept the Eye contact until she Acknowledged it) then i smiled.. n walked away

Afterwards i felt kind a little bit shaken but i'm contented becuz I kept my self in control.. n composed.. (Hence there was Feelings at the time.. but i kept it under control)


She came around my workplace again.. later that day.. She walked passed me n pretended not to Look BUT I SAW IT... If she did make eye contact i would of just said Hi.. n pretended nothing happened.. but Yeh

:):)


Over N out

-SeSaR
 
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so you are this much happy because she rejected you?

you sound like you succeded in a way.

:confused:

nevertheless,she dumped you in a friendly way. Guess she wasn't arrogant or feelin like she was the queen of the world etc.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I'm happy because.. i handle it better than i think i could ... i didn't let my emotions or feelings the the better of me

I learned something from it... n that is something about myself




-SeSaR
 
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