"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Rejection Gives Me a Surge of Positive Energy

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I met a HB6 last night and figured she might be good for a lay. So I asked her out today and I got the "I just broke up with the guy I was going to marry" excuse. I just kinda ignored it and transformed the subject into a humourous rant about how I'm avoiding guys as well, mainly because of their body hair.

Rejection just doesn't bother me like it used to. I could have taken the AFC route and said I'm sorry about her situation. But I'm not, so why should I fake it? I just wanted her for a lay, and I'm not getting it from her.

But after that, I just feel a surge of positive energy rush through me. It doesn't matter if I get a rejection, I have the balls to go for something I want. That power is more valuable than fear of being turned down.

So the chick's not wanting anything right now. Her loss. I have a date tomorrow with a Japanese chick who's excited to go out :up:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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That's the charge you get from handling business. Great job!
 

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Good for you! "Rejection is better than regret" - Pook
 

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Can't make them all want you. I personally think that rush is simply the feeling of empowerment.....you simply do not care about the outcome. Or, it's the feeling of hope.....that there are bigger challenges out there. Just knowing you don't know it all is an 'up' feeling sometimes.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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speed dawg said:
the feeling of empowerment
This. There is a huge difference between "having" to do something because you're needy and desperate or choosing if you want to do it (or not). You can choose to hit on a woman or abstain from it. You can push her during the date or not. You can get stuck up on her or not.
And if you choose not to, it's the most powerful of stances, that of famous Bartleby: "I'd rather not". Remember, your "need" to engage/peruse a woman is the only power this woman will ever have on you (unless you're married/having kids). Take this power away from her and you're all good.
 

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The key to success is to double your rate of failure.
 

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Rejection is all part of the game. Since most women today are low quality ANYWAY.. most of them are doing you a favor. Ironically. :crackup:

In reality though.. you can tell if a woman is sexually interested without even making a move. How she reacts to flirtation and physical touch will tell you everything in most cases. Attention wh0res will try to play you, but their behavior gives it away. That behavior is basically refusal to submit and follow your lead.

With "playing hard to get" it means she wants a beta provider. A man who is whippable to be used as her utility/therapist/ATM. Since she wants him to stick around.. she will hesitate to get physical fast.. because she wants to create the illusion of being a "good girl"... worthy of being on a pedestal. Even though she just gave some alpha a blow job hours before.
 

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hahaha lol @ you asking out aything below a 7 come on sir i know you can do better
 

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hahaha lol @ you asking out aything below a 7 come on sir i know you can do better
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Desdinova said:
I met a HB6 last night and figured she might be good for a lay. So I asked her out today and I got the "I just broke up with the guy I was going to marry" excuse. I just kinda ignored it and transformed the subject into a humourous rant about how I'm avoiding guys as well, mainly because of their body hair.

Rejection just doesn't bother me like it used to. I could have taken the AFC route and said I'm sorry about her situation. But I'm not, so why should I fake it? I just wanted her for a lay, and I'm not getting it from her.

But after that, I just feel a surge of positive energy rush through me. It doesn't matter if I get a rejection, I have the balls to go for something I want. That power is more valuable than fear of being turned down.

So the chick's not wanting anything right now. Her loss. I have a date tomorrow with a Japanese chick who's excited to go out :up:
That happened to me too , but my energy drained once I found it is hard to build relationship with a woman just met on street or cafe, but the positive side is I felt really more confidant and that I ll find the woman I want soon .
 

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Guys who are bothered by rejection or even anxious by it are trying to control things that are out of their control.

Remember this: If something is not in your control, then what's the point of letting it bothers you. If you live by this you will avoid a lot of negative sh!t.
 
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