Rejecting Invitations Or Ignoring People Leads to Hate: Why?

[spitfire]

This is something I just don't understand. I just assume that if someone I've contacted doesn't respond back, they don't want to hang, and that's fine. I'll sometimes give them a couple of chances but anything beyond that gets weird. One girl I texted twice, she didn't respond. I saw her again at the same bar where I first met her and she was acting weird, but I was nice to her, no problems. I didn't resent her at all.

On the flip side, if I don't respond to someone's text or phone call or DM, they hate me forever. It gets super weird. This happens at meetups, at professional or social mixers or whatever. I exchange contact info a lot like most people and not really inclined to follow up with everyone.

But if I don't respond and see these people again, they are enraged or look like they're going to cry. One guy invited me to a dance thing. It sounded ok but I didn't feel like driving out. I never got back to him. I see him again at another mixer. I didn't even recognize him actually. He started to b1tch me out saying I "promised" I would hang out with him or something ridiculous, making a big scene. I was just trying to figure out who he was. It turns out he sent me a text which I just barely glanced at and ignored.

At meetups it gets especially weird because once a woman sends you a message, she definitely wants to date and some of these women aren't that attractive so I don't follow up. Also, I get guys texting me wanting to hang out but they're so weird it's not really worthwhile. Some of them text over and over and again, and get mad if I don't reply.

Why don't people just get the hint that I'm not interested if I don't reply? I just assume that if someone I msg doesn't get back to me in a couple of days they don't want to hang out and I just let it go and move on.

And yes, I've tried it the other way, letting a girl know I'm not interested and it's just devastating to them so I don't feel like going down that route again. Some guys will just hound you to hang out no matter what.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Its called female logic.

If i drop invites, msgs, and a girl doesn't bite, take the bait, i next her.

***** is dead to me.

This goes for breakups, n/c, etc

She could get hit by a bus and zero ****s given. Too busy hitting on baeeees and going balls deep to attend funeral.

New girls are turning turning 18 19 20 21 everyday.

 

[backseatjuan]

they hate me forever

They don't hate you, they push you away. At first they were nice to you, enough to crave your attention by inviting you, and you ignored. They take the rejection, and they push you away, you misread it as hate. It's done almost unconsciously to attract you back. You know how attraction works, they don't, you control your emotions, they don't have control of their emotions.

Stop ignoring texts. Reply, let people know you won't make it.

Field has only a limited space, once you run through it there won't be anyone left. If you took on an interaction, take care of keeping it up to some degree. It's much better to have friends everywhere, rather than haters and back stabbers.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Most of the people are ego driven and incapable to control their feelings with logic and common sense.

This fact gets multiplied x10 when it comes of women.

 

[spitfire]

This conversation reminds me of one gal in particular. This girl has low-keyed hated on me for a looong time. Not openly, but it's just beneath the surface. For example, she's thrown two major house parties in the past year but I was not invited. Here's why:

The first time I met her was at a wine bar. We chit chatted for a couple of minutes. Almost the first thing she said to me was to mention her boyfriend. She seemed kinda flirty but whatever. I excused myself to go to the restroom.

She actually followed me. I turned around as this surprised me slightly. "This guy is thinking 'why is this girl following me into the bathroom?' with a big smile. Yeah, she was trying to follow me into the bathroom for a quickie 2 minutes after she met me.

I didn't say anything. She took that as a lack of consent. Would look bad if she had still followed me in. So yeah, from that moment forward, she felt "rejected." This is AFTER telling me she has a boyfriend! I've known this girl for well over a year and she still hates me!

People are crazy these days, I don't know what to say.