"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Rejecting Girls

guitaronfire411

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From my experience, when a guy rejects a girl before they've even had time together, the girl will pursue the guy very aggressively after this point. This is only if the interest is there.

One time in high school, there was a girl that hung around with all of my friends at lunchtime. I would often laugh and make fun of her. Near the end of my final year, she went through a friend of mine to ask me out -- I declined multiple times. I later went to the winter dance, wanting to be with a different girl, and went AFC on this girl I liked. (I came on too strong and made her blush in class.) The original girl whom I despised danced with me that night, but my heart wasn't in it and it really showed. Later that summer, she would invite me and some friends over to meet her parents and brother. That must have been an act of desperation, as she was messaging me whenever I went on MSN. High interest to the max!

In a scenario where the girl is seeing someone else, what are the effects of rejecting her as a prospect? I understand that she won't be as desperate as a girl sarging for a single guy, but won't curiousity of 'what could've been' be more attractive than what she can get easily? ie. 'I always want what is out of reach'.

I did a search for a thread like this one and could not find it in the database. The best answer I could find is that girls either don't give a **** or get extremely pissed. Which brings me to another, more recent story. ;)

Two terms ago, I was always making fun of this girl and giving her kino. We would hang out and go places together, almost as if we were bf and gf. For example, she needed to find the bus station to get back home, so I went with her as a friend (even said this at the time because I had zero interest in her) and saw her off. I'd tease her, and one time was talking about sex and making double entendrés like crazy. The other guy in the room couldn't take it. I was having a ball and turning myself (and I think her) on. Eventually, this girl and I started to get more and more distant. One day, I went to someone else's room in residence and caught her there. She was all cranky towards me and was talking about how her boyfriend is always cheating on her and how she wanted to do it too. I was in a stupidly-honorable mood, so I said to her that I don't cheat on other guy's boyfriends. After that, she ignored me until the very end of the year.

Thoughts?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Q-Pid

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Originally posted by guitaronfire411
Haha. Nice joke buddy, but I've been here since around 2001. :D
clap clap :woo:

Women act randomly when rejected I've found. It depends on her and what she's like.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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