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rejected kiss. complicated circumstances.

LoneWolf

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so this girl i knew before the previous girl i was seeing for two months. she was one of the plates i ditched for the other girl. now that im single again im chasing her a bit. we have been flirty in the past and all. she even once said replying to my comment about grabbing her ass "but u keep telling me u have a gf" which i did and was a stupid idea. cause now i think that ruined my chances with her. she was always wanting to hang out but i kept cancelling since i was with someone at the time. now today we met up. hung out for a while at the mall. had coffee and walked around etc.

when she dropped me off at the train station i went for a kiss but she gave me the cheek. i tried to kiss her lips but she turned to the otherside and said "no ur not getting that" in a casual way. she wasnt upset or anything. so i just laughed and smirked. said talk later and went on my way.

anyway i never regret going for the kiss. i like to know where i stand. ive known her for a while but we only met 3 times or so but nothing ever happend cause i was seeing someone.

bte shes christian and has stated before she cant date non christians and she knows i have sex with other girls. i know theres attraction between us i can feel it but id say the whole christian thing is gettng in the way.

should i even bother anymore? got a date with a diff girl tomorrow.
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

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Don't tell me you're going on a date with that girl that randomly was knocking on your door in the rain last wednesday, who asked you for the time, then you let inside to play on your phone to look at facebook while you were cooking dinner. Why ask us? You do what you want to do anyway. You sure don't take our advice. You sure rebounded fast from your ex with all these new women you have.
 

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Two strikes rule. One more chance, if you aren't too busy with other girls.

But seriously, next time do yourself some favours and think up something better to do than hanging out at the mall, having coffee and aimless wandering around.

This is something her friends would do with her, hence she rejected the kiss.

A man would meet up with her at night for a few drinks, tease her and get her all worked up and then fvck her.

Doesn't always work that way always for anyone of course, but there's no point shooting yourself in the foot.

Don't give me any b/s about you really wanting to get to know the girl, I know that is b/s and so does everyone else.

Also, don't use the Christian thing as an excuse. If she was attracted to you, she'd be banging your brains out regardless. Stop fooling yourself.

One more shot and see how it goes.
 

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Fred_Scuttle said:
Don't tell me you're going on a date with that girl that randomly was knocking on your door in the rain last wednesday, who asked you for the time, then you let inside to play on your phone to look at facebook while you were cooking dinner. Why ask us? You do what you want to do anyway. You sure don't take our advice. You sure rebounded fast from your ex with all these new women you have.
what... the.. ****??? umm no? how the hell did you just come up with that lol. it happened like 2 months ago ON a wednesday. that's a whole different story. and yeah, i'm trying to meet as many girls as i can to move on and forget about the last girl. i was pretty depressed for a couple of days but meeting more girls helps.
 

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okay she just called me on a private number. that was very unexpected. after that night she rejected my kiss, i left her and never spoke again until just before she called me. three days later. i honestly couldnt be stuffed with her so i just went NC. the conversation kind of went like this (7mins)

me: hello?
her: hi
me: umm hi? whos this?
me: .... is this <name> playing tricks on me again?
her: its <name>
me: ... <name?> how come ur calling off a private number??
her: i wasnt sure you would answer it
me: why wouldnt i answer it?
her: because you havent been online and hiding from me. not talking.
me: havent been hiding?
her: where have you been?
me: busy. working, out, doing things.

so we just spoke about other random things at this point then i think i did something stupid:

me: yeah... still got those dinner coupons? we should use them. what you doing thursday?
her: yeah i still have them, i will let you know. im doing something wednesday and friday so i'll see if i can come out thursday.
me: okay, well im gonna get going, got a few things to do.
her: okay no problem!
me: alright talk soon! bye
her: yeah for sure! bye

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sometimes i get caught off guard with phone calls. i dont have enough time to plan things to say while on the phone. i feel that asking what she was doing on thursday was bad and good at the same time? i asked because i do want to see her again but also said thursday so it looked like i was busy. i didnt wanna just talk and then say bye without setting up anything?

anyway, now i know that me tryin to kiss her has made her think about me ever since. the fact she called on private and said she didnt know if i would pick up and about me hiding from her. shows interest. also am spinning a few other plates atm.

so how do i take it from here guys? did i do alright?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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