"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Rejected an ex stripper..Am I crazy?

mpimpin

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I have this HB8 in a few of my classes and she has been heavily flirting with me since the start of the semester. I've pretty much ignored her advances, but have recently been working on projects and studying with her.

She is giving every IOI I can think of etc. and I even found her last test grade which was the highest in the class next to mine. Her pleas for tutoring help don't seem very valid.

Today she invited me back to her place, and I blew her off.

Friends are thinking I'm crazy. I even asked my Dad about his thoughts and he said I should becareful and maybe stay away from an ex stripper, but that if I've gotta hit it then be safe. :D

The thing is I blew off another HB not long ago and I'm wondering if I should just man up and see where one of these situations goes.

The thing is I've been concentrating on school and work lately and Money and grades are great. My current focus is great and awhile back My grandfather kept pressuring me to fully concentrate on college first.

I thought he was crazy, but am giving it a shot and am truly fulfilled.

Just wondering if I'm crazy or if I shouldn't let other friends opinions that I'm crazy get me thinking I'm missing something.

In the end though I'm the only one not an AFC and whining about girlfriend problems.

Any other DJ's have similar experiences?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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tsmith2334

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You're not crazy. If anything you have good priorities. Girls will come and go. I don't know if her being an ex-stripper excites you, but ultimately I would find it to be a major turn off (not my ideal profession for a girl).

Nothing wrong with turning down women sometimes and being focused. It's healthy in fact.

Just be super careful you don't blow off their advances and then end up pining for them a few weeks later after they have already moved on. Happens to me all the time and it sucks.
 

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I experienced that last scenario before, but pretty sure I won't be doing that now.

The ex stripper thing partly excites me cause she seems like a fun girl, but would worry me about that type of life style...
 

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You're 19. It's not like the ex-stripper is going after you to lock you down for marriage & kids. Have fun & hit it, mate.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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You could hook up with an ex stripper.

Just don't fall in love and its all good.

She'd probably be wild in bed.

Just wrap it up first and its all good.
 

Aragon034

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KontrollerX said:
You could hook up with an ex stripper.

Just don't fall in love and its all good.

She'd probably be wild in bed.

Just wrap it up first and its all good.
^ What he said.

I expect one of the following to be destroyed after such a night.

  • Headboard
  • Ceiling Fan
  • Nightstand
  • Lamp
  • Septic tank (from flushing multiple condoms)
Have fun, though i'd advise you to make sure from the start she knows it's a purely sexual relationship, otherwise, as said before, prepare for serious flak. I suggest DragonSkin Armor.
 

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Definitely nothing wrong with hooking up with an ex or current stripper for that matter. Just don't DATE her, that's where a lot of guys go wrong. When you start dating a stripper you end up getting involved with stripper drama...the absolute worst kind of drama there is hand's down. I'm dating a bartender from a strip club and she's still a handful.

Anyway the point is there's nothing wrong with the hit it and quit it philosophy in this case. Just remember the quit it part because usually getting good tail will kind of warp your mind if you're not careful.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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Unlike other guys. You focused on what was important!!
 

mpimpin

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Believe me I've not chosen whats important many times...

Hence why I'm trying now.

PRMoon, this girl spends her breaks and summers in Vegas and is actually there this week.

Aragon, Nice post! haha If something happens I'll try to keep it at her place!

Definitely not a good idea to flush condoms though
 

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Only strippers i knew had daddy issues, stay far away, let you friends date her
then hand them the crying towel when they find out she's borderline
 
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