"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Regrets - Got any?

guywhoneedshelp

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I sometimes think I have a regret. Being 20, thinking I was too young to be in a relationship, I left one. Afterwards I started to regret it, suddenly missing the things, the little things. Our little nicknames for eachother, the passionate sex, going to see events together, having someone to say good night to. I scarified the relationship so I could take time to worry about myself and my career, and sometimes I wonder what she's doing...how is she? Do I still miss her? Is this normal?

I'm not complaining or regretting to not let a relationship distract me. But sometimes I long for the feelings she gave me. What do I look for in a girl? Looks, the fact she wont cheat, a girl who has a job, and a girl who wants to be with me. I had all that, but had to give it up to do things that will pretty much put me in a better situation financially.

For anyone who had to give up a relationship, to take risks, travel, go to a university, save money when you'd rather spend, go to sleep early when you'd rather stay out all night, stay home and study when you'd rather go out, work a job in a different state so you could make your name in a smaller market, to become successful, I want to hear from you.

Am I talking to you?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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guywhoneedshelp said:
stay home and study when you'd rather go out, work a job in a different state
Am I talking to you?
How close minded of you. Try another COUNTRY. Im sorry, it just pisses me off when Americans think that there is nothing but their own country and culture in the world. I know this doesnt apply to all of you americans, but it just annoys me so much. You are talking about taking risks, how bout taking a risk in another country, travelling and experiencing the REAL world?

Just had to rant a bit.
 

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In Motion said:
How close minded of you. Try another COUNTRY. Im sorry, it just pisses me off when Americans think that there is nothing but their own country and culture in the world. I know this doesnt apply to all of you americans, but it just annoys me so much. You are talking about taking risks, how bout taking a risk in another country, travelling and experiencing the REAL world?

Just had to rant a bit.
Exactly. Maybe you are someone who went to study abroad, sacrificing a relationship. Ever seen the movie "The Family Man" starring Nicholas Cage? Remember how successful he was because he took the risk, taking the road less traveled, leaving his college girlfriend for a job at some bank in another country?
 

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I hear you bro. But you’re doing the right thing. Regrets? None. There will be time of nostalgia but they quickly fade. You did the right thing at your age. Trust me. When you are in a better position to deal with the world, then all that “good times” will be given to you by someone else. Any woman can cook, any woman can give you massages, any woman will want to be with you once you have your life together. Get your life together before getting the girl not the other way around.

I hope you wished her well when you left her. You could’ve still be friends. It all depends on how you ended things. Chin up buddy. 
 

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I hear you bro. But you’re doing the right thing. Regrets? None. There will be time of nostalgia but they quickly fade. You did the right thing at your age. Trust me. When you are in a better position to deal with the world, then all that “good times” will be given to you by someone else. Any woman can cook, any woman can give you massages, any woman will want to be with you once you have your life together. Get your life together before getting the girl not the other way around.

I hope you wished her well when you left her. You could’ve still be friends. It all depends on how you ended things. Chin up buddy. 
You have me feeling good with this post, thank you. I do see myself in a good position, although a lot of girls do go for the "loser" or the "outlaw biker/dirtbag" I find myself on a very lonely road sometimes. Most of my High School friends make it look so appealing when I see their "not care about anything" lifestyle in which they make crappy money but have a great time with eachother. Many friendships of mine have fallen from the wayside because of my desire to become successful.

As for my breakup, it was emotional. We both sensed that things weren't going to work out, but never talked about it. We fought instead. Her being someone who never went to college, never worked a job other than a cashier job once a week, we were 2 different creatures. I guess in time, someone will come along. You don't go looking for it, you just live life. I'll make a six figure salary one day, and hopefully not still be feeling nostalgic the way I am now.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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