Regional Variation: It's Real

[steelpulse]

It's time to face facts: the game is wildly different in different states and cities throughout the US.

I've lived in the biggest cities in the US, college towns, big cities with college towns, medium sized cities and small towns.

If you are having terrible or mediocre results in one town, travel. Visit different cities when you have a chance even if it's only for a couple of days. There's a good chance you will eventually find a good maybe a great situation that just clicks for you.

I thought I had it great living in one of the two biggest cities in the US. I had a great dating life but went to grad school in a medium sized city that seemed obscure by comparison. Once I arrived there, my jaw dropped every single day. I was seeing and meeting the hottest, sweetest, kindest women I had ever seen every single day. It made Big City look like a complete dating dump by comparison. For a while I was double dipping in both cities traveling back and forth but couldn't sustain it. It was too time consuming.

Now I'm in a pretty sh1tty scene for dating. It's easily the worst I've been in in my adult life. I've made the best of it by traveling out of town on weekends.

The point is, travel and explore. Even if the cities you visit are considered to be backwaters, they may still be great for you.

 

[GrowingPains]

Something else to consider:

Figure out what it is that's wrong with wherever you currently are and face that challenge. Is it you? Is it the women? Is it some dynamic you don't understand? Yes, every arena has different obstacles. You may be inherently better at traversing some obstacles than others without practice. But keeping up your strengths and bringing up your weaknesses is a powerful combo.

 

[glass half full]

This is true, every place has it's "traditions", or ways, or the like.
I've even found that going to a previous place amongst different situations, a new crowd, yep it doesn't matter.
Some places jibe better with certain types of people, lifestyle, attitudes.
You can go to a small city that has absolutely nothing going for it, and do very well because you have a more upbeat attitude than most.

 

[Mazer]

Yes, it’s a numbers game. Chad will pull more hb9’s and 10’s in Manhattan than in Rochester. Some members have posted that if you clean up in NY, you will clean up anywhere. This is party true but walking down the street and Online dating in the NYC area is so easy because there are a lot more hot women available.

 

[backseatjuan]

I'm not saying against anything you wrote OP.

But there is something to consider, the grand school. Men and women from around your country come to that city to attend the grad school and whatever else educational facility you have there, and they all want to meet new people, they all do what you do. This is major part of your awe at the moment.